*big hugs* I've been rooting for you and Beej all along, and will support you 100% no matter what decision you make. But when it stops being fun, that's a big sign right there. Maybe you guys just aren't meant to be.
aw, thanks jess. i've been rooting for us too & hoping that miraculously i grow some balls and take him out galloping and give him a real job, but... that's just not going to be me with him. i think once we find someone who can do that, he's going to THRIVE.
I don't have any real advice, just stepping in to say good luck with whatever you choose. I'm confident that whatever decision you make will be the right one.
He's taught you a whole lot of stuff you needed to learn, but ultimately we have horses because we enjoy it and if you're not having fun and he's starting to feel like a constant trial then maybe it is time for you to find him a different home. It seems like maybe Taz has helped clarify this for you by reminding you what fun you can have with a horse who isn't vanishing off into their own crazy world the whole time.
It's a tough decision, but I will think no less of you if you choose to let go of a relationship that is proving to be all work and no play.
absolutely. i've learnt more about horsemanship in 2.5 years with beejay than i have done in the 25 yrs of horses previously.
oh AND i remembered something you wrote about today, about saddling up a horse & having to keep the saddle close to you. i lift the saddle up high & i can see taz roll his eyes at me, but when it's close to my body he doesn't even react.
The saddle thing is the great thing about having learned with Martin- he's started tens of thousands of horses and everything he does these days has so much finesse and there are so many great little tips like that. I'm really glad it was helpful to you, that's why I write this stuff up :)
sleepsy_mouse felt so much better after she retired Joe and got her Small Pony. She hadn't realised at all how much Joe had shredded her confidence until she got a brave little horse who she could ride safely and where she could offer him help where he needed it and her considerable skill could be applied more successfully and enjoyably. She's achieved miracles with that little horse over the last couple of years- really changed things for him. If she had stuck with joe ( aside from the physical problems ) I doubt they would be far beyond baby steps even still.
thanks mate. even reading this entry & all the comments now makes me tear up. just thinking about it randomly, i get pretty sad & upset... but now i've made this decision, i know it's the right thing.
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It's a tough decision, but I will think no less of you if you choose to let go of a relationship that is proving to be all work and no play.
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oh AND i remembered something you wrote about today, about saddling up a horse & having to keep the saddle close to you. i lift the saddle up high & i can see taz roll his eyes at me, but when it's close to my body he doesn't even react.
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sleepsy_mouse felt so much better after she retired Joe and got her Small Pony. She hadn't realised at all how much Joe had shredded her confidence until she got a brave little horse who she could ride safely and where she could offer him help where he needed it and her considerable skill could be applied more successfully and enjoyably. She's achieved miracles with that little horse over the last couple of years- really changed things for him. If she had stuck with joe ( aside from the physical problems ) I doubt they would be far beyond baby steps even still.
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ugh, what a journey tho.
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