erm...no. well, maybe in crazy-dadland you are but really does that count?
it does sound like a tough situation no matter how you deal with it, but i think the thing is, yr dad is slightly wacked, and even if you were a shining example of patience and virtue (and no one's saying you're not) it would still be a rough thing cuz yr dad is still yr dad and there's nothing you can do about that.
I wish you had more support around this...seems to me children should *not* be responsible for this kind of thing if parents or other relatives are still around? Do whatever is best for you though, try not to let yr dad's grumpiness affect you too much. Its hard enough that you lost yr mum.
one yr ago on 19/march. apparently 1 yr after the event you have a memorial service. according to philippine culture. we don't do it in australia really. well, you do what you want, it's not an actual *thing*.
my mum passed away a year ago (19/3) & my dad is wanting to do a memorial service for her. i didn't even know you did that type of thing? idk.
i have had a long time to think about my mum & our relationship. it's always very different after they have passed away! she was an absent mother & just came back into my life when i was 21.
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it does sound like a tough situation no matter how you deal with it, but i think the thing is, yr dad is slightly wacked, and even if you were a shining example of patience and virtue (and no one's saying you're not) it would still be a rough thing cuz yr dad is still yr dad and there's nothing you can do about that.
I wish you had more support around this...seems to me children should *not* be responsible for this kind of thing if parents or other relatives are still around? Do whatever is best for you though, try not to let yr dad's grumpiness affect you too much. Its hard enough that you lost yr mum.
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i do have to remind myself that he is wacked & not 100% right in the head - otherwise it's just too crazy trying to keep up with his needs & wants.
technically, i'm the only relative of my mum's left. my dad and her divorced when i was a toddler, but he still likes to put his nose in. idk.
i'll call him later- i won't be doing it. just gotta get amped up to say NO.
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apparently 1 yr after the event you have a memorial service. according to philippine culture. we don't do it in australia really. well, you do what you want, it's not an actual *thing*.
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i have had a long time to think about my mum & our relationship. it's always very different after they have passed away! she was an absent mother & just came back into my life when i was 21.
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