abuse can build a chasm it is impossible to cross

[belenen]

icon: "distance (two hands (from a brown person and a white person) just barely apart, facing each other palm to palm)"
Content note: contains specific examples of physical, sexual, and emotional abuse between my parents.My dad was in town this week and reminded me that the last time he was in town, I asked him if he had "an exit strategy" with

Comments

[topaznebula]

God what a thing. Yeah, that's some horrifying abuse back and forth, and I agree they should (and should've a long time ago) get divorced. I'm glad you're brave enough to keep telling him how you recognize the abuse and that they need to separate. What an unhealthy, abusive relationship they have.

[belenen]

It is dreadful.

Thanks for the thoughtful comment *hearts*

[kittenboo]

That is very sad, for both of them, no one should have to live through any of that. Not grow up in that kind of environment.

[belenen]

Thank you

[bichoose]

How sad and tragic life can be...Jesus...my mind has closed down...wow...

[belenen]

Sorry to cause distress! Is there something else I should have added to the content warning?

[kehlen]

I lack words to articulate what is like to know what might help someone you care for, but be unable get them to so much as try. Especially in horrible situations such as this your family's. *hugs*

...do they even acknowledge your opinion as valid and worth listening to? Looks like your dad might, a little.

My mother sort of does, but more than anything, she wants things in our family to be better, yet does note care to do the work required to make them better.

My father does not acknowledge my opinion at all in most cases. So for now I put trying to change anything on hold. I just-lack the wisdom I need to do so. (And trying and getting nowhere hurts almost too much.)

[belenen]

I'm honestly not sure if my dad is listening or not. I have been telling him this for so long that I suspect not.

[alycewilson]

A sobering portrait of a poison family dynamic. I hope that eventually, he will listen to you.

[belenen]

Me too! Thank you