abuse can build a chasm it is impossible to cross

[belenen]

icon: "distance (two hands (from a brown person and a white person) just barely apart, facing each other palm to palm)"
Content note: contains specific examples of physical, sexual, and emotional abuse between my parents.My dad was in town this week and reminded me that the last time he was in town, I asked him if he had "an exit strategy" with

Comments

[adoptedwriter]

Wow! Waiting to outlive a spouse is a loooong time. Hugs...

[belenen]

It really is!

[elderwoodpixie]

Wow, that really sucks. My grandparents were like that - separate bedrooms for over 40 years. You have my sympathies.

[belenen]

Thank you

[halfshellvenus]

What a nightmare of a relationship, and awful to have to witness let alone live. :(

[belenen]

A nightmare is a very apt description!

[picosgemeos]

You have described very well this horrible catch 22 situation... I'm lost for words and yet wish for some light to enter this situation and resolve it.

[banana_galaxy]

This was hard to read, mostly because of the few similarities in my own life. It's a very difficult situation, but I agree with you - once you deliberately hurt your partner, then that trust is gone. Very difficult to come back from that.