finally reclaiming my assertiveness

[belenen]

icon: "strong (a photo of me in warm light with my hair down around my face, staring intensely into the camera in a defiant mood)"I have become more assertive again since getting on the right meds for my anxiety (starting last October I think). I wasn't expecting this but it really highlights how much my reaction to danger is to become meek and

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[chillychilly22]

This is very relatable. These days when I truly feel I'm being myself, I throw a little party in my head.

I'm really happy that youve regained your assertiveness back. You can't tell but I'm throwing a little party for you in my head. Streamers, confetti, and balloons are being released in your honor. Also little victory dance. :)

I had something I would say to myself to remind me of me but I've been so disconnected I don't remember.

[sandracaprice]

So glad that you’re reconnecting with your assertiveness!

I very deeply relate with how pretending to be other than your true self affects you. I spent all of my childhood, teenage years, and e ven until my mid- to late-30s doing this to some degree, and it destroyed my mental health. Without knowing myself, it was seemingly impossible to grow or overcome past trauma.

[hana_broom]

I can totally relate to what you've written here about assertiveness and stuff... It's something I've been trying to work on for myself. It's lovely to hear of your progress and you're inspiring me! xxx

[browncouch]

This is great! I struggle with balancing assertiveness and whether I am just being a jerk. I try to speak up more often and not dwell on things I have done or said, but I notice that focusing more on myself and my needs sometimes makes me socially clumsy.

[thatunicornfizz]

I'm glad to hear that you are reconnecting with your assertiveness and feeling more comfortable in so doing. My husband and I had a long chat about boundaries tonight - being more assertive is certainly a journey!