why/how I make people a priority

[belenen]

icon: "polyamorous relationship anarchist (a rainbow-colored heart with the 'anarchy' capital letter A cutting through it, over a brick texture that suggests the heart is graffiti)"What causes me to make someone a priority is one of two things: we decided together to deliberately build a connection, or we have an energetic connection that is

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[belenen]

I appreciate you on that, and honestly you reach out to me unprompted more than many of my friends do, so that may illustrate the intensity. I find it really hard to believe someone when they say "if not for xyz, I would spend way more time with you" then xyz stops happening and nothing changes, not even a little.

I can understand being swept under, but when it has been months or even years without them coming to me? when I see effort being spent on loads of other things that the person tells me are not as important to them as I am? it just feels like a lie. Or at best a self-deception on their part.

[ragnarok_08]

I definitely agree with you on this - it's very sobering and revealing when you see how people value you or not.

[belenen]

*nods*

[belenen]

I understand life getting in the way, I just can't deal when there is no reaching out from them for such a long time. I don't need a lot, just SOMETHING to show that they're still making an effort, that they still care. Otherwise it seems illogical to keep on waiting for things to improve.

[kehleyr]

At some point, they're just not valuing our connection. I shouldn't pour energy out trying to keep that connection alive. Fuck it. I should do what they're doing and treat them as part of my past not my present.

Yeah I couldn't agree with you more!

[belenen]

<3

[meri_sielu]

I can empathise with your last few paragraphs but I think it's very strong and postitive that you know how much to extend your reach. You don't shut people out immediately but you are learning when to draw boundaries if you're not recieving the nourishment back you put in, that shows a level of self care that is very vital <3

[belenen]

I am really quite bad at it *wry face* Workin on it though.