icon: "disassociative (a digital painting of a stylized person in profile with wide open screaming mouth and arms up with palms spread wide. Head and hands flow into strands like blood vessels)"Several people have been concerned and reached out to me lately, as I'm dealing with a lot of stress. I never really know how to answer when people ask "
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When someone gives me a vague affirmation like "it will get better," that has no positive effect on me and sometimes it stresses me out, because I try to believe them and I cannot."
Usually I'm pretty careful not to say things like "it'll get better" or "I'm sure [bad thing] won't really happen" because I can't know these things. Instead I tend to say something like "I hope you find peace of mind" or "sending good vibes your way". I try to phrase these things in a way that doesn't blame the person for their situation, or blame them for not finding a solution to their situation, but just show that I'm thinking about them and hoping for the best.
But now that I'm thinking about it, those things are pretty vague. Do they bother you at all, should I switch to saying something else?
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In a similar vein to feladrone I would like to ask if it's ok to say things like "I hope you feel less stressed soon" or "I hope you find peace / closure soon"? Also, we frequently tend to say things like "I'm sorry you're feeing that way / dealing with that thing", and again, just wondering if that is ok?
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I would just like to say that this is very insightful because I don't know (no, I do know) that I'm not even in a place to know what I need and don't need. For you to have written this is just amazing to me!
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