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How to Help Belenen When They are Stressed: the Don'ts and Do's

Aug 25, 2016 05:00

icon: "disassociative (a digital painting of a stylized person in profile with wide open screaming mouth and arms up with palms spread wide. Head and hands flow into strands like blood vessels)"Several people have been concerned and reached out to me lately, as I'm dealing with a lot of stress. I never really know how to answer when people ask " ( Read more... )

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cactus_rs August 25 2016, 19:35:46 UTC

I wish I knew you well enough to give those kinds of specific compliments, but in time! I do tend towards that "let's problem solve!" habit-funny enough, I do it because my natural inclination is usually to talk about my own experience. I've cut down on that (except with people I know well-ish) because I don't want to come across as "~all about me~", so I'm glad to know I can do that here. Thanks for the heads up!

Do you enjoy getting care packages or little things in the mail?

belenen September 6 2016, 00:13:45 UTC

I love when people talk about their own experience! and I love getting things in the mail! That has never lost its magic for me *smiles*

cactus_rs September 6 2016, 22:15:28 UTC

If you like, you can send me your address and I can send a postcard or some such from Stockholm now and then. :)

wanderipity August 25 2016, 20:42:24 UTC

#3 of "The Don'ts" is my favorite one. I can identify with that.

belenen September 6 2016, 00:14:30 UTC

*nods* It can be very tiring!

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belenen September 6 2016, 00:16:29 UTC

awesome!

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belenen September 6 2016, 00:17:10 UTC

I'd love to read your version of the dos and don'ts!

kiwi August 27 2016, 14:27:57 UTC

1) Don't offer advice or try to problem-solve with me unless I explicitly ask for it.

A million times yes. I've gotten to the point where I will specifically say to my partner "I am going to vent because I am upset and I do not want you to offer any suggestions or try to fix it for me, I just want you to listen". It is by far and away one of my biggest annoyances. I completely agree.

I like this list.

belenen September 6 2016, 00:20:20 UTC

*nods* I find it really helpful when someone frames a situation like that, because even though I find it annoying when people do it to me, I can get caught up in thinking about the situation instead of the person and try to problem-solve *embarrassment*