Don't put sex jokes in my mouth without my consent. Do not.

[belenen]

icon: "antagonistic (a photo of me in cat-eye makeup with violet hair, snarling with bared teeth and staring intensely into the camera)"There is this repetitive and predictable act which is passed off as 'humor' where people imply that what someone else said is meant in a sexual manner. Examples: saying 'giggity' or 'that's what she said' after

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[sandracaprice]

I had never considered this. The dominance aspect explains my reactions sometimes, so thanks for pointing this out.

[belenen]

*nods* It took a long time for it to click for me!

[mac_arthur_park]

Thank you. This was very timely for me. I frequently say things that come out "dirty" and end up feeling embarrassed, so using it to make a joke just compounds it.

Case in point: this week, we had one of the UNC basketball players come in and order a 12 inch version of one of our sandwiches (they're not on the regular menu, so I've never seen one before). When I brought him his food, I said "I've never seen a twelve inch one before. That's MASSIVE!"

And promptly wanted to die.

Bless his heart, even though he was about as red in the face as I was, he said "Yeah, it's a really great deal. It's a lot of food and I just got done with practice."

I was fully expecting a "that's what she said" comment (I, perhaps unfairly, had him pegged as that type). Instead, we interacted AS HUMAN BEINGS and talked about the massive portion sizes we have at work and our favorite menu items.

I wish things went that way more often.

[belenen]

Oh god reading this I got all nervous out of empathy. I'd have been so relieved! *whew*

[belenen]

*nods* it's totally fine if you have consent, like with yourself and your friend!

My Thoughs on This

[the_hag]

are most in line with the third commenter. I've done this sort of thing before and I do tend to collect people in my life that have the same sort of sense of humor that I do...but I would never do this to someone I just met, and definitely not to deliberately make another person uncomfortable. That is not okay, ever. :-)

I think this falls into the range of every group knows ONE person who overdoes this and genuinely thinks they are being funny, but they aren't. This type of joke, even if you like or tolerate it gets old really fast (unless perhaps you are a teenage boy).

I enjoy your posts were you talk about issues like this because they make me really think about what I say and how it affect (or might affect) other people. :-)

Re: My Thoughs on This

[belenen]

I am glad that you are cautious about whom you do this with -- I wish all people were so considerate.

glad you enjoyed me sharing my process on this!

[medesign]

this makes really good points. Im with you on this. its happens to me alot and makes me feel uncomfortable sometimes so much that i will just not talk. then people think im being rude or uptight because of it. Then I also feel liek a hypocryte since M and I use these comments on each other but maybe thats different as we are laughing together and dont mind the sexual enuendos between us. things to think about.

[belenen]

Well, when it is with someone you know and you know they are okay with it, then it is different, because you have consent! So that doesn't make you a hypocrite at all.