relationship anarchy: we each only do what we want / my intentions & desires in all connections

[belenen]

icon: "Renenutet (a relief carving of Renenutet, represented as a winged cobra, overlaid with a fractal coloring)"
I read an article by joreth the other day that got me thinking about my identity as a relationship anarchist. I tend to refer to myself as polyamorous because I use that as an umbrella term, but I don't line up with mainstream polyamory. I

Comments

[seifaiden]

This is the first time that I've heard the term "relationship anarchist", but your definition fits my philosophy. I tend to use the term "poly" but like you I've not entirely felt that I fit it well. Many (if not most) of my relationships tend to be difficult to define and that's okay. Thank you for teaching me this!

[belenen]

you're most welcome! I felt relief finding that term myself *smiles*

[raidingparty]

I respect these intentions and will strive towards the same.

In line with "meeting relative level of needs": You previously described people using a numerical scale for what they like or dislike. I've used it to great success recently for group voting. It would have been relatively easy to game the system, but as far as I can tell everyone was forthright in what worked for them.

[belenen]

lovely!

I'm so glad to know that! I have not yet had an occasion where people tried to game the system, which is a relief and a pleasure to me.

[ragnarok_08]

I definitely respect those intentions as well, and I'm thinking of striving to the same.

[belenen]

wonderful *hearts*

Great model

[moontiger5]

Dear author, thanks for sharing your list of intentions and desires in a relationship. They seem extreme common sense to me whether one is a relationship anarchist or not. I am taking note! Once again, thanks. --MoonTiger5

Re: Great model

[belenen]

you're most welcome, glad you enjoyed reading it!