reduced anxiety = increased sexual desire / recent experience with percussion play / need my claws!

[belenen]

icon: "brewing (a photo of a ceramic mug with sticks of cinnamon poking out and steam rising up)"One of the effects of being on anxiety meds now is that my desire for sex is significantly increased. I now understand why most of the time when I get drunk, I want to have passionate kisses and maybe sex; drinking reduces my anxiety. This in

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[queerbychoice]

I tried, once, to have sex outside the context of a relationship. I definitely did not get much out of it, personally; the sex was terrible, and even though neither of us was at all romantically interested in the other, it still somehow basically turned into a relationship, in the sense that we continued having sex regularly for several months and also hanging out together. The sex always remained terrible, and the relationship was a very poorly chosen relationship since I hadn't intended for it to be a relationship at all.

Even so, it was kind of arguably worth doing once, just because the one major thing I did get out of it was complete certainty that casual sex was not for me.

If you ever do anything like that, though, do at least make sure to choose as safe a situation as you can, emotionally and physically. I did a fairly decent job on that front, at least; I was definitely not scarred for life. It was just a harmless several months spent having hopelessly unsatisfying sex and hanging out with someone whose company I didn't

[belenen]

wow, that does sound kind of terrible, in the most mediocre way!

I will definitely be keeping safety front and center. I am glad that your experience was harmless, at least!

[annapandawoo]

That's awesome the anxiety medication is working. This may be odd, but from how close you seem to be with those particular Facebook friends, you may be able to ask them if they know anyone they could introduce you to?

[belenen]

y'know, that is something I hadn't considered! I may try that, I'll keep it in mind. Thanks for the idea!

[belenen]

I know! I think most anti-anxiety meds work by calming you down overall, and sex involves getting excited, so most people don't get there. I think for me, my anxiety is very much in my body and so the meds calm me down enough that sex isn't too much anymore, which is the usual state for me.

thank you! I am glad I have gotten so much better at the skill of self-awareness.

thanks :D

[meepalicious]

I really admire how open you are, both in your relationships and talking about them. I feel like I learn something new about relationships and wellbeing every time I read one of your entries.

[belenen]

aww, thanks!

[ragnarok_08]

Glad that your anxiety medication seems to be working for you, and I just love how open you are about relationships :)

[belenen]

thanks, thanks! *grins*