on 'enabling' abuse:

[belenen]

icon: "garrulous(a photo of my lips with the skin greyed out and the lips overlaid with a green and blue fractal pattern)"Most people don't REALLY have a choice about enabling because you have to 1) realize it is happening and 2) have enough resources to change it and 3) realize you CAN change it in order to actually have a choice. None of these

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[belenen]

*nodnod* it is easier to have empathy for the one you know, but it's important to have it for all people.

[ragnarok_08]

Thank you so much for saying this.

[belenen]

<3

[callmebee]

This is really very validating for me. I've been doing a lot of thinking on the subject as my marriage ends, and it invoked a lot of feelings when I read it. They're kind of tangled right now, but I'll try to share them when they get untangled.

Thanks for saying this. It's true.

[belenen]

*offers hugs* I am glad this felt validating for you <3