an 'about me' that is exceedingly dense and comprehensive.

[belenen]

icon: "vivacious (my face with bold cat-eye makeup, with my head tilted down and to the side, looking at the camera with a wide close-lipped smile, hugging myself)"
There is a steep learning curve for most people to be close with me because I am so different from the default in identity, values, and language.

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[re_vised]

Oh, I think we will get along quite well!

I am always seeking to improve myself, and think a lot about the person I want to be and how to arrive there. My best friend and I spend a lot of time discussing ourselves and how/why we arrived at certain conclusions or ideas. I also am so, so open-minded about the choices others make in their lives. (I suppose there are some limits, but they involve acts like murder and rape.) I am (or at least I feel that I am) socially awkward and an introvert. I do a lot of introspection, as I mentioned above, and find that most social interactions drain me. (Which is difficult because I am my friend's go-to person for support or advice.) I need a lot of downtime. I've been in an ongoing struggle to find the right work/life balance, so I can be the person I want to be to my friends and family and animals.

[belenen]

yay!

I love discussions of how and why people arrive at conclusions. So much more fun than just 'what are your opinions?'

eeeek, needing down time but having a friend who relies primarily on you is a hard balance to strike. I have learned that I can't handle it -- I need my close ones to have at least one other person to turn to so that it's okay if I fall apart and can't be their support sometimes.

[meri_sielu]

"The internet of the forest" <---- That is the most perfect and amazingly accurate description of fungi that I have ever read and I love you for it. <3 Fungi is so fascinating, there's just so much more to it that you don't see underneath the ground and it does very much resemble fibre optics at times. So neat. :)

[belenen]

I don't think it was originally my idea, but I can't remember? probably I got it from Joan Slonczewski, my favorite writer and biologist :)

I looooove fungi <3 I want to be fungi when I grow up.

[webgirluk]

I loved reading your "About me" and identified with it a lot

[belenen]

yes absolutely, friends are more important than family for me unless the family member has become a friend.

I understand about slip-ups, they really happen to everyone. It's just so ingrained. The other day I was having the strongest impulse to call myself st***d, and this is after years and years of not using it. It is hard to get that stuff out because people keep on reinforcing it in your brain!

[ragnarok_08]

I love your intro post - it's so informative and you sound like a really great person - I look forward to getting to know you more :)

[belenen]

awww, you're so sweet! ditto!

[sabraka]

I hope my writing isn't of any offence. A lot of my more aggressive language derives from a place of attempted humor, I think. I'm all about some stand-up. Even when joking though, I understand words can be hurtful. I struggle with words & communication in general, & I am not exactly what's considered neurotypical, either. When I write though, I am better able to see what it is I'm trying to say, & work on having it make sense. Striving to eliminate any hurtful slurs, is certainly something I can become more aware of & work on

[belenen]

*nods* I understand struggling with communication in general and I imagine that makes it harder to train out certain words and phrases. It's extremely rare that someone offends me when they are trying to be respectful -- in fact I am not sure it has even happened once. I get offended by stuff people do on purpose, knowingly, not by stuff people do accidentally or without knowing that it is hurtful.