I appear to trust more than I do / trusting intentions & trusting followthrough / 77x7 chances

[belenen]

I may seem trusting, perhaps even too trusting. Certainly people have thought that I trusted people because I brought them close to me. (I felt very bad about this after they ended up hurt thinking they could trust someone I trusted, not knowing that I didn't actually trust that person). Let me say this: I trust very few people all the way. I let

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[raidingparty]

Good to think about - I have a similar thing about playing diplomat with a lot of people to whom I'm not close.
My mothers have talked about how strong barriers help trust - they have known each other for decades, and know each others' vulnerabilities, but creating a strong bubble helps both of them feel safe around the person who could, because of said intimacy, hurt them the most.
It's really counterintuitive, and several spiritual people have avidly rejected the concept, but I see how it works for my mothers, and understand the need for personal safety (especially in intimacy).