it's one thing to be upset about how someone handled a certain situation, but it's also just as important how you decide to handle it. whenever i'm upset with someone, i voice my feelings but i always listen to hear where they were coming from, too! ash sounds a bit stubborn (sorry if that comes off as bitchy, i promise it's not meant as that..) -- it's not about taking sides, it's about understanding both point of views and if you like, help find a happy medium to both of your friends! :( i'm sorry this is happening... so draining in deed! *hugs warmly*
Many hugs, love. Focus on the positives in your life! <3
I think in the future if we're friends again we're going to have to come to some sort of compromise over how to handle conflict because I find Ash's style really upsetting and ze finds mine upsetting
My mom was saying the same thing last night about people. Different people handle things in different ways, but it's up to two people to figure out a compromise to find an answer. Interestingly, she said she felt neither method was wrong (avoiding conflict or - in a sense - actively creating it) but that how it is handled later is what truly matters in the end (which again can vary depending on the people involved). Hope it resolves itself for you soon. *hugs*
you know why im madamateseJune 17 2010, 04:26:04 UTC
you judged me very harshly back in January when we were discussing some things that i had been involved in and you hurt me deeply and every time you tried to talk to me you kept making excuses and trying to change your opinion. especially after i confronted you about it and then all of a sudden you felt a connection to someone who was or is involved in the same thing you judged me so harshly upon. so what im saying is i cant be friends with someone who judges me and my actions but can accept someone else's because of a connection.i feel betrayed, hurt, and like you were being two faced. on top of everything else i went to help Ashley pack up her stuff and guess what i found yes the vest you specifically asked me for after i bought it for myself and it was tossed in the middle of the floor with the trash not to mention that you left everything else that i had given to you as a gift behind for trash im sorry in my opinion friends cherish gifts given from the heart not throw it away with the trash. so my point is i dont feel like we were
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Re: you know why im madbelenenJune 18 2010, 07:44:37 UTC
I understand and am sorry that you felt judged, but I've explained my actual feelings and apologized for making a stupid comment that did not at all express how I felt. I could explain all over again but that would be pointless, as my true feelings sound like excuses to you.
The one thing I do want to say is that I did not mean to leave the vest behind. I very much valued it and was very touched by the sacrifice you made in giving it to me. I left in a hurry -- that is not the only important thing that I meant to take that I left behind.
I know that you think very little of me and that there is nothing I can do about that. I will take your name down.
Re: you know why im madbelenenJune 20 2010, 21:23:47 UTC
you wanted to know why I froze these comments, so here's why.
I wanted to work it out with you and tried my best to understand and empathize and apologize. Perhaps I failed miserably. Whatever the case, I think it's pretty clear that you do not like me and do not have any respect for me, so there doesn't seem to me to be anything else I can do. At this point, I'm tired of being called a two-faced backstabbing bitch and I would like it if you would stop telling me just how worthless I am. I already know that you feel that way about me and it isn't making anything better to keep going back and forth in the same way.
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it's one thing to be upset about how someone handled a certain situation, but it's also just as important how you decide to handle it. whenever i'm upset with someone, i voice my feelings but i always listen to hear where they were coming from, too! ash sounds a bit stubborn (sorry if that comes off as bitchy, i promise it's not meant as that..) -- it's not about taking sides, it's about understanding both point of views and if you like, help find a happy medium to both of your friends! :( i'm sorry this is happening... so draining in deed! *hugs warmly*
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I think in the future if we're friends again we're going to have to come to some sort of compromise over how to handle conflict because I find Ash's style really upsetting and ze finds mine upsetting
My mom was saying the same thing last night about people. Different people handle things in different ways, but it's up to two people to figure out a compromise to find an answer. Interestingly, she said she felt neither method was wrong (avoiding conflict or - in a sense - actively creating it) but that how it is handled later is what truly matters in the end (which again can vary depending on the people involved). Hope it resolves itself for you soon. *hugs*
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The one thing I do want to say is that I did not mean to leave the vest behind. I very much valued it and was very touched by the sacrifice you made in giving it to me. I left in a hurry -- that is not the only important thing that I meant to take that I left behind.
I know that you think very little of me and that there is nothing I can do about that. I will take your name down.
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I wanted to work it out with you and tried my best to understand and empathize and apologize. Perhaps I failed miserably. Whatever the case, I think it's pretty clear that you do not like me and do not have any respect for me, so there doesn't seem to me to be anything else I can do. At this point, I'm tired of being called a two-faced backstabbing bitch and I would like it if you would stop telling me just how worthless I am. I already know that you feel that way about me and it isn't making anything better to keep going back and forth in the same way.
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