I certainly hope silence and then changing the subject and not asking questions wasn't a sign of something akin to humoring you. You'd know better than any of us - being that you were THERE - but the way you described it I sort of get this extra-sensory idea that perhaps it was shrugged off rather than really accepted for what it is. But that's an outsider's view and could be completely inaccurate.
I'm glad you had the courage to approach someone about something that meant so strongly to you - the idea that you knew you might face an emotional storm of negativity but also knew it had to be faced to get to a potentially better place is very refreshing to me. You're definitely a stronger spirit than even you realize!
To be honest, I wonder if Pat suspects this is a phase you're going through and is therefore just going along with it. I wonder if once they realise that being bisexual and polyamorous is not a phase at all and that you are truly in love with Aurilion, not just having a fling, you'll see a bigger reaction.
also possible: thy Pat is going through such a big shift already that one more thing that doesn't look like it's going to threaten zir and doesn't look like it's doing you or yours any harm...it just doesn't totally register.
"I'm already swallowing so much change, what's this added to the mix?" Not so much "it's just a phase", or shrugging-off, more "we'll add this to the pile of things to process; Divine knows it's big enough." ~shrug~
You know zir, though, and I'm only supposing.
I'd say coming out to zir is certainly a mark of Bel the Courageous, though. :) Now for Bel the Patient, as you all wait for all Pat's ash to settle. You know?
Well, congratulations on taking that big step and coming out! i remember how nervous I was to do so with my parents, too! I also did not get the expected response. It was also a positive one. It turned out that they had known people in poly relationships before and so it wasn't a strange concept to them
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I'm glad you had the courage to approach someone about something that meant so strongly to you - the idea that you knew you might face an emotional storm of negativity but also knew it had to be faced to get to a potentially better place is very refreshing to me. You're definitely a stronger spirit than even you realize!
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"I'm already swallowing so much change, what's this added to the mix?" Not so much "it's just a phase", or shrugging-off, more "we'll add this to the pile of things to process; Divine knows it's big enough." ~shrug~
You know zir, though, and I'm only supposing.
I'd say coming out to zir is certainly a mark of Bel the Courageous, though. :) Now for Bel the Patient, as you all wait for all Pat's ash to settle. You know?
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