a committed relationship does not need sex to be deep

[belenen]

Comments

[diepunyhuman]

Sounds like the person who left said comment is probably a little bitter, jealous or who-knows-what. Sure, we've all been burnt before but I don't see anything wrong with wanting to connect with others on a deeper and less superficial level. Hell, I wish more people were like this.

[belenen]

I wish they were too!

[desert_rose]

Thanks so much for this great entry! I sent a very special friend an Email earlier tonight expressing how I feel for him, and the definition of a soulfriendship fits how I feel exactly! I am very happily married to the most wonderful guy, but can still be committed to a male friend, as there is nothing physical in the friendship.

[belenen]

it sounds like you really got what I was expressing; thanks for the comment!

[mourningdoveava]

I would almost certainly have to agree. I would think that while physical intimacy (in terms of sex...not cuddling) can almost certainly *add* to or supplement a deep attachment, it cannot function as the basis for a deep attachment, and deep attachments can exist without its presence.

This has become so manifest in the relationship between Dani and I. Sex is a relatively new practice within our relationship, one that we've frequently had to suspend due to either his sexual abuse issues or my issues with Michael. It's foolish to believe that the strength or depth of our bond could fluctuate depending on our level of sexual intimacy. Our love is what it is, and while sex plays a part in that, it is neither necessary nor vital to the duration of that love.

Stay strong in your beliefs and who you are. I'm proud of you.

[belenen]

YES. You get it! But I knew you would ♥ Thank you *hugs*

[futurelessons]

I really hate the way people have such low expectations when it comes to friendships, "soul-friendships", and relationships. By setting such low expectations, it means that they don't push themselves to go through bad as well as good to maintain such relationships. Because they are precious, they are important, and there's no reason why they can't last for a very, very long time - if not always.

[belenen]

By setting such low expectations, it means that they don't push themselves to go through bad as well as good to maintain such relationships.

exactly! Without a commitment to pull one through, I think many relationships would not survive conflict (which any deep relationship WILL have).

[belenen]

yes! *nods* thank you for this comment ;-)