what's in a name... really.

[belenen]

Comments

[sidheblessed]

I can relate to the struggle to find a name. it took me years to find one that I felt was "me" and even now i'm not 100% sure the search is over.

I think Bel suits you but can see why it might not work as a first name.

[belenen]

yeah, it's weird -- it makes me all happy to hear others call me Bel, but I can't bring myself to do it. And it doesn't sound right for Ben to call me it either.

[streaked_beauty]

that sorta makes sense to me.

my name is Deborah and I never thought it really fit me. strangers would say it didnt either, and I always wondered how they really knew if it did or not if they didnt know me at all. I guess I looked more like a Victoria or Amy, but not a Deborah. I didnt like my name for the longest time, but it kinda grew on me. I still cant say if its really me, but I think after a period of time, I dont think I can picture myself with any other name. Though for a period of time I wanted to rename myself to a name that was a bit stronger, but still feminine.

[belenen]

I'm glad you've adapted to your name. I've never known a Deborah before that actually went by Deborah, so that's kinda cool. ;-)

[kevloid]

I'd steer away from gretchen and wendy. :-)

[belenen]

Very good advice there. ;-)

[kevloid]

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[carodus]

this sounds like its part of the healing process you are going through. It is just another way that you regain control over re-defining yourself and who you want to be.

I think more people than you realise struggle with their name -- it is an imposed identity given to you by your parents/guardians. For what it is worth - I like your name :)

[belenen]

heh, I like my name too. That's what makes it so weird that it doesn't seem me anymore.