time with my evil twin / growing up

[belenen]

On Monday I went out for about an hour with Kristen B, or my 'evil twin' as she refers to herself. I've known her for about seven years now... when we first met, we thought it necessary that we be friends because we had the same first name and we both spelled it right. (most people spell it Kristin or Christin, bleh

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[eternitywaiting]

Sometimes I think I've gotten more boring since I got married, but it's got nothing to do with marriage. I stay at home more, rather than going out with friends, but that's largely because I don't enjoy the same activities as other people my age. When I was a teenager, my friends and I could just go out to eat and go to the movies and go shopping - I would still do all of that. But somewhere in later high school and now in college and around early 20-somethings, going out was suddenly about drinking and partying and going to clubs...blah. I could go to a bar with friends every once in a while. I don't want to do it every freakin' week, let alone Thursday-Sunday. I'd rather stay at home, wait for Robert to get home from work, and watch Adult Swim with someone who appreciates my company without the presence of alcohol. I'd be staying home regardless of my marriage, so all getting married did was give me company. I got boring because everyone around me got stupid

[jedibubbles]

You know, I know the "spoiled middle-class bitches" rant wasn't directed at me personally, but for all the times I've gotten that from other people, I have to speak.

We're not all bitches, we're not all proud of being "little rich girls," and some of us chafe quite mightily under our parents' financial dominion and wish that they would let us earn and pay for something ourselves once in a while.

I despise the lack of responisibility, I simultaneously hate AND love it when they me stuff, and I positively abhor it when people look down on me because I've "never had to struggle for anything." I'm fully aware of the shame of that, thanks. And I don't look down on people who pay their own way; rather, I admire them and wish I had their strength. I hope someday I have that strength.

[eternitywaiting]

Not only was it not directed at you, it was specifically directed at those who treat the rest of us like shit for not being at their financial level. More power to the person who has a resource like that to take advantage of, but it's not fair to be nasty to those who don't. If you're not a bitch about it, then it wasn't at all about you. My best friend has her college paid for by her mother. She hears me bitch about these people all the time. You have nothing to defend, I wasn't attacking. And you certainly can't say that you don't know anyone who falls into the category I'm talking about.

[jedibubbles]

I know. And I totally understand. *gives a grimacy "we're in opposite ends of the same boat, aren't we?" grin* And my rant wasn't directed at anyone in particular--well, not at anyone who reads Bel's journal, at any rate. I've just been lumped in--regardless of my attitude and the fact that I avoid girls like that with a passion--a few too many times. They truly are horrible little creatures.

[goleafs87]

Yeah after you get married old friendships's tend to sort of just fall away or so I hear, never been married myself so what do i know. Kinda sucks that she tells you that you've gotten boring, what's up with that ?? lol

[belenen]

I think she calls me boring because she expects hanging out with me to be as exciting as it was when we were little, and it isn't. It's understandable, she's just wrong about why she finds me boring -- it isn't because I've gotten boring, but because she's gotten more indifferent to everything.

[belenen]

People grow and people change, and sometimes old friendships simply do not fit together any more...
Yeah, that's the main reason I've been avoiding a lot of my old friends. We just aren't on the same level anymore, mentally and emotionally. But Kristen has been doing some growing up, and I'm hoping that she will continue to grow, so that we can be close enough maturity-wise to be friends again.

[_vanityinblack]

Friends like that can be draining. But they're worth it. Usually friends for life too.

I'm freaked out by your description of her:

"She likes to think of herself as a badass. And she kinda is -- I can't imagine anyone ever pissing her off and not regretting it. But she's also a bit of a goody-goody (and she admits it). It's odd being with her because I feel simultaneously less powerful and more powerful than she is."

.... if you asked my best friend, she'd describe me exactly the same. Badass, with a meaaaan streak and a bit of the goody goody. woah.. weird.

[belenen]

hee hee. ;-)

[belenen]

Well, Kristin is second best

[belenen]

Well, phooey on that, it's just good money sense to share space and rent with someone else.