Comments | being_isis: options

being_isis

options

Feb 18, 2007 18:36

talked to my mom today for a long time. we usually wind up chatting forever, because she's the only person I ever really get particularly chatty with in general. we've really patched up our relationship since all the drama a couple of years ago, and I think now she knows me better than most people ( Read more... )

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magicmarmot February 19 2007, 00:20:17 UTC

Sounds like it might be a good choice, at least for a while. You're the one who knows what your relationship with home is like and whether it's something that you can do again: as much as you'd like to think it's changed, when you move back home, you will be the kid again, and not an adult.

Still, there's nothing that says that you can't try it for a while and move if it gets too bad.

being_isis February 19 2007, 00:22:55 UTC

actually, my mom's pretty good at treating me and my sister both as adults no matter where we're living. in the grand scheme of things she's a pretty amazing person to have for a mom.

and you're right. even if I was just there for a few months I'd probably have enough saved to get moved if I desperately wanted to.

dragonfly1867 February 19 2007, 00:37:16 UTC

It might help to make a definite timeline. As in figuring out a budget, how much you would save each month, and how long it would take to save up enough money to return to Minneapolis. Set a specific time when you would like to leave. Is there a chance that you could move back home and start making enough money where you would be comfortable with the situation and just decide to stay? Would that be an acceptable decision?

I think the other poster makes a good point--there is no reason why you have to stay if it doesn't work out. And I think it's the lesser of two evils in terms of giving it a try. If you move back home and decide it isn't working out, it would probably be a lot easier to head on to Minneapolis, rather than starting out there in the first place and realizing after a few months that maybe you should have taken your mom up on her offer.

being_isis February 19 2007, 01:32:28 UTC

I don't know yet what I would be getting paid, but if I wasn't having to worry about rent it really wouldn't matter. the biggest expense I'll have while there is the payments I'm going to have to start making on my loans in six months, but my parents are making the first few payments anyway to make up for the money they borrowed for my sister's wedding.

I'm always comfortable at home. since my mom and I worked stuff out we've gotten along really well. and it is possible that I would get there and decide to stay, and it would be an acceptable decision. as for timelines, if I really wanted to I could have enough money saved just to move back to minneapolis probably in a couple of months. but it would be harder to start really saving if I were having to worry about rent and stuff like that, and I know I'm going to need to have some kind of savings so I can do the loan repayments. if I do this, it's going to be for a year at least, because I think that's an acceptable amount of time to dedicate to it ( ... )

kittenbonanza February 19 2007, 14:11:32 UTC

Aaron suggested that I ask you to move into my house and see how long it would take my dad to notice, but this would work too. :)

being_isis February 19 2007, 22:04:07 UTC

IT WOULD BE LIKE PARENT TRAP.

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_wendylady February 19 2007, 23:34:37 UTC

I'm not gonna tell you what to do because I for one am sick of everyone assuming that when I talk about my options or my indecision I'm inviting their opinions, BUT I think the obvious solution to this quandary is to MOVE IN WITH ME.

Once I get a not-shitty apartment anyway. Which could be soon. C'mon, Iowa City, fun fun.

But yeah. Hope you get things worked out. Being moneyless is crappy, but living with parents can be too. (Or rather, living on your own is cool, but being moneyfied can be too.) Good luck.

being_isis February 19 2007, 23:55:14 UTC

I DO NOT KNOW WHY I DID NOT THINK OF THIS

we could hunt down pirates and then feed them pie. all would be well in the world.

also, a present, just for you.

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dungeonmagi February 20 2007, 06:40:59 UTC

you know i support ya whatever decision you make. *hug* I'd like ya to come here, but you gotta do what's best for you. :)

being_isis February 20 2007, 18:15:47 UTC

I might still get there eventually. besides, April's not that far away.

dungeonmagi February 20 2007, 20:40:25 UTC

Eventually can be a long time, but i'm hopeful it won't be as long as all that. But if i'm anything i am patient. :)