Taking control, or giving it up?

[barryfreed]

So what does it mean to really take control of your life? I am finding it means to totally examine my motivations for my feelings and really get a the heart of why I react to certain things. If I see an endless cycle of pain and misery that stems only from my perception of things, then it’s time to do something drastic to break that cycle

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[ext_392923]

Mark, I think you should follow your new instinct and end it. You cannot convince her that her fears are unfounded. She feels them and she will continue to feel them. People are who they are. And if she comes to you at some point in the future and says she wants to try again, you can reconsider your options. Many people get back together after a breakup. You are not overreacting, in my opinion. I don't think you can blame yourself for the relationship being over if you take control; she started you on this course of action. But really there is no reason to make it into an issue of blame: the relationship isn't working, so you both move on. It sucks, it's lonely, frustrating, and painful... but I believe it's less painful in the long run than being kept on a string and then ultimately cut loose. People don't do this sort of thing when they want to stay in the relationship... I think she may be trying to let you down easy instead of making a clean break. Just my two cents... sorry you are hurting, my friend.