Close Encounters of the Second Kind

[barmaidblog]

Monday is another gorgeous day, and I'm walking to midtown to meet Gary for a late lunch at a nice restaurant with outdoor seating, so we can spend some time together and catch each other up on our weekends before I head for my shift at The Bar. Everybody is really starting to dress for the weather, which is wonderful, but awfully distracting -

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[dokai]

Well, I'm glad that Maya is having fun, anyway. Sorry to hear that your date with Gary didn't go so well. In his defense, it is a lot to absorb in such a short period of time, especially if he's had limited experience with non-vanilla people. He seems like such a great guy - I'm confident that he'll come around once he manages to get his head wrapped around the issues.

Have a nice trip!

[cos]

It kind of pisses me off that this is "a lot to absorb" because it isn't at all, but on the other hand, you're possibly right - coming from a conventional point of view, with some of the idiotic ideas that float around, it may indeed be a lot to absorb :(

[dokai]

Agreed. Perhaps I should have phrased it "For someone with little to no experience with 'non-vanilla' people, this seems like a lot to absorb." I'd have no problem with it, but then most of my friends aren't vanilla, and it would be wrong of me to project my values onto Gary when my background and experiences are probably very different than his.

I'm hopeful that with some experience that he will become more comfortable.

[roserose16]

I hope he learns to trust you, and fast. If he doesn't, well... that shows what kind of person he is. Both me and my fiance are bisexual, and we trust each other completely. Just because someone's bisexual doesn't mean they're going to sleep with someone!

I hate it when people make assumptions. I wish Gary didn't assume.

[intendent]

Ouch. I'm very sorry about Gary..

[etfb]

If he hasn't been exposed to the idea of bisexuality, then it's OK for him to take a little while to adapt. It's a new idea for him! (Mind you, the fact that he hasn't is a worry, but different cultures have different averages, I guess.) Don't give up just because he got flustered and said something stupid: it shows he's not a smug know-it-all, and he lets his passions override his brain occasionally, which is not a bad thing. (Try going out with someone who always has an answer ready: you'll find they do this by never listening or changing their minds, so their answers don't have to be seen in public half-formed.) Give him a chance to sort out his feelings... then if he stays stupid, chop off his genitals and feed them to your goldfish. But not until he deserves it, OK?

[possibly_sane18]

And you'd think most men would go for the "threesome" approach upon hearing that. I've known some men who have said that when they were presented with that (I'm not bi, and I wasn't in the situation...just the audience.)

Hopefully he'll come around and say he trusts you. Hugs and hang in there!
(Oh, and hopefully people will learn to do things behind LOCKED doors....)

[katamphigorical]

hopefully people will learn to do things behind LOCKED doors....

They were behind a locked door, after a fashion. o_0

[possibly_sane18]

Well I meant that THAT door should have been locked (if it had a lock at all), not just the FRONT door.

And even though they were a little preoccupied....couldn't someone have heard the door in the front open? :-)

[katamphigorical]

You'd think so, but there have been a couple times i was too caught up in what i was doing to even hear the *crashthud* of the front door being slammed. :P