Gone to friends-only

[ayalanya]

It took me a while to decide this was necessary, but since my Livejournal/Dreamwidth handle is the same as my current official website and email address (both present on my business card), it seems like a potentially bad idea to publicly discuss some of the things that go through my mind. I'm torn, of course; I want to remain as transparent and

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[tigira]

Mine has been on a "friends only" default since well before F was born.

I totally understand.

[ayalanya]

Yep. :)

[lilith42]

I totally get it. I use FB for minor daily complaints, games and the occasional sharing of news stories (which is apparently enough to offend people as it is.

My LJ is where I really let my feelings flow. I do not censor myself since only a handful of people (no actual family) view it.

[ayalanya]

I was a lot more open on Facebook, even, until I got chewed out for not being the happiest new mother that's never existed. Then I got chewed out for daring to suggest that maybe not everyone can do all the activism at once (so maybe it's okay to start small, because at least it's a start). So now I try to keep my complaints purely on the physical level, and mostly act like my life is the most perfect thing you've ever seen, and I have no political or social opinions at all. Which is stupid, vapid and stifling.

[elionwyr]

..That sounds horrible.

[ayalanya]

Both people removed themselves from my life, so in my less-vulnerable moments I'm okay with it. But my in-laws are on Facebook, and ex-coworkers who still work for the company that Scott works for, and...it's just more prudent to stay light and avoid making waves.

[dakotakym]

I'd love to be added, if you're comfortable with that..

[ayalanya]

I think I have finally figured out who you are (I may have asked you at some point too, but I can't remember. You have way too many parallels to the person I think you are, so I have an educated guess), so yes. :)

[dakotakym]

Oh! I'm Kym; we've communicated more often in other realms (though I thought here too.. but perhaps I'm either mistaken, or the connection wasn't clear). I assure you that I don't bring chaos of the detrimental variety to the party..

[ayalanya]

We've communicated here, but it took me looking through every comment you've posted to say "hey, I think that's the Kym I know!" - although I think I guessed it at some point some time ago, I just didn't solidify the guess until, well, now. Sometimes I am dense. And uh, having gone back on coffee, I'm now feeling the lack every morning.

[chris_walsh]

Hi again, this time online. I wondered if it was OK for me to follow/read your journal.

Showing myself a little more, here's what I wrote about my day at Faerieworlds, and here are a few photos I got of you and elionwyr.

It was nice to meet you. I hope you had a manageable trip home.

[ayalanya]

Heya! I really appreciate you writing about it - I was feeling decidedly invisible after the weekend, so it was awesome to see those pictures and read what you wrote. Thank you for that.

At the moment I don't feel I know you well enough to add you back, and I apologize for that - I've gotten increasingly personal with this journal, and while I like to live out loud to some extent, there are places where I would rather stay a little more private. I've sent you a Facebook request, though, if that's okay?

[chris_walsh]

No need to apologize; I understand. And thank you for the Facebook invite.

All the best...