Interesting! Some of that is very familiar to me, and other parts not so much. I seem to be more of a girly-girl as an adult than I was as a child, but I probably feel very girly partly because most of my friends are geek guys.
Yeah, I spent my lifetime thinking I was neurotypical because I knew I wasn't like the geek/Aspie boys I hung around with. My Aspie qualities are subtler and don't fit the 'male systemiser' blueprint, among others. What tended to happen was that I could easily see where their behaviour was odd, but I was sublimely unaware of what I got wrong.
Aspies are all different, and though I find it odd for one to be a girly-girl (because lack of conventional femininity was a big part of my failure to fit in), I don't find it at all hard to believe as it's yet another example of mental rigidity.
I don't have the same behaviours as Kristina, but I don't seem to find her hard to understand.
I'm not incredibly into pink, though I do like it and wear it, and I didn't like a lot of the girly stuff that was popular when I was a kid. But now I love bright colours, makeup, cute things, and pretty things.
Yeah, that's more like me, except.the make-up (which still strikes me as a neurotypical conspiracy. All seems too much fuss to me). I love bright suffused colours, but it didn't strike me until you mentioned it that was a girl thing. I suspect what I always disliked about the Real Girl thing was the conspiracy of unspoken fitting-in, make-up to look 'natural' (why?), subtle intuitive stuff, and so on. It's probably fairly common for Aspies to feel something of the pressure to conform in same-gender groups, but not getting as far as caring about it or being able to change their behaviour to match. I think what you're describing reminds me about the idea that Aspies may get on very well with people from different countries. If one's 'different' behaviour can be ascribed to being part of a group of people not there at the time, people won't expect you to fit in perfectly. So being the only girl in a bunch of engineers may give you the freedom to 'act girly' in a playful way without feeling judged.
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Aspies are all different, and though I find it odd for one to be a girly-girl (because lack of conventional femininity was a big part of my failure to fit in), I don't find it at all hard to believe as it's yet another example of mental rigidity.
I don't have the same behaviours as Kristina, but I don't seem to find her hard to understand.
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