SHIT. I need routines, okay? This isn't the worst thing ever. It's hard for me to talk about because it's hard for me to demand that things that aren't normal be respected
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I walk to the supermarket before I run out of things.
Your roommate will always make promises and rarely deliver. Don't be fooled. Don't play the game. Don't even announce your need for Diet Coke, because if the two of you haven't played the game for a while, she'll volunteer to drive you (later, that is, not now), just for the sake of getting you tied on to the wait again.
thanks. I just walked to the supermarket and I feel great--it wasn't really that far, and it was nice to get exercise. And it's good to know that I can just do this myself and not rely on other people.
That's really important. I can still walk to the supermarket at my age because I've been walking all my life. Too many people can't. In the immortal words of Neil Young, "Rust never sleeps."
yeah...I used to have headaches when I didn't drink it, but I stopped drinking it in so much excess and now I think it's more just wanting the taste/texture.
texture is probably a lot of it because I don't like soda at all if it's not fizzy.
Arrgh! I hate this kind of thing, too! I can't understand why some people can't do something at the time they agreed to do it! This drove me crazy with my ex-boyfriend
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That sound so annoying! I try really hard to assume that other people are doing the correct thing, because I know they have better natural social skills and empathy than I do--but then they seem to do completely selfish things and not even THINK about it. whereas I'd at least think about it and feel bad.
I try really hard to assume that other people are doing the correct thing, because I know they have better natural social skills and empathy than I do--but then they seem to do completely selfish things and not even THINK about it. whereas I'd at least think about it and feel bad.
I think your last words in this quote show that you do have empathy, probably more than most people. I'm one of the most empathetic people I know. However, I may not always show that empathy in a way that clearly conveys it. I believe it's a myth that autistic people lack empathy.
I was really struck by comments in another post about a difference in NT and autistic communication styles. If someone tells me a story about something upsetting that happened to them, I may respond with a similar story, by which I mean to prove that I know where the other person is coming from and I can empathize. However, I'm learning that this can often be seen as being self-involved and switching the focus away from the first person.
Old Cutter John's comment is much more civilized than my own reaction, which is that it would be a cold day in hell before I even thought about setting foot in that roommate's car, after being treated this way. Obviously you cannot count on being driven to the grocery store, and so yes, you should walk or otherwise get your own self there, and make sure you restock before you run out again. Railing against your roommate will get you nowhere, and may indeed be what your roommate is looking for.
I feel your pain about needing routine..I am the same way, especially waking up and going to bed. I remember having to share a tiny-ass dorm room in college and the same types of things would always happen to me...it was so awkward and irritating! It's so ironic to me that everyone thinks aspies can't communicate that well, when in fact I feel like I run into more neurotypical people who suck at telling you what's going on. It's maddening!
I have the same problem. I think it must by the differing brain circuitries or something. I believe I am communicating appropriately and others can't understand or find me strange or are insulted. And then they (the NTs) say something and I think: "And you say I can't communicate?" This happens with people I am close to more than with strangers.
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Your roommate will always make promises and rarely deliver. Don't be fooled. Don't play the game. Don't even announce your need for Diet Coke, because if the two of you haven't played the game for a while, she'll volunteer to drive you (later, that is, not now), just for the sake of getting you tied on to the wait again.
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That's really important. I can still walk to the supermarket at my age because I've been walking all my life. Too many people can't. In the immortal words of Neil Young, "Rust never sleeps."
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texture is probably a lot of it because I don't like soda at all if it's not fizzy.
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I think your last words in this quote show that you do have empathy, probably more than most people. I'm one of the most empathetic people I know. However, I may not always show that empathy in a way that clearly conveys it. I believe it's a myth that autistic people lack empathy.
I was really struck by comments in another post about a difference in NT and autistic communication styles. If someone tells me a story about something upsetting that happened to them, I may respond with a similar story, by which I mean to prove that I know where the other person is coming from and I can empathize. However, I'm learning that this can often be seen as being self-involved and switching the focus away from the first person.
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