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[999kcelfe]

Hello asperger community

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[annechaucer]

Well said!

[fanofscifi]

I like those rules! I might check out that book too - is it just a longer explanation of the rules/how to apply them?

[999kcelfe]

Well, the book expands on things, and eventually
gets into a lot of paganistic ideas. I'm not really
a pagan though, so I took what I wanted from the book,
but never finished it, because I didn't need more.

I could read the book all the way through, but for me,
just understanding the rules was all I needed and wanted
from the book.

The key thing is... always doing your best,
and not taking things personally. The "taking
things personally" goes back to dealing with NT's.
Most NT's are so wrapped up in their own "realities",
that even they forget to be decent people. Then they
blame their problems on YOU, because you're "not normal",
and in their reality, "not normal = weird, and weird = bad"
Of course... "not normal" DOES NOT MEAN "bad". "Not normal"
can very definitely mean....... good. :)
I'd rather be around "weird" people, than "normal" people.

...oh, I go off on tangents. I can't help it. I'm also hoping
that people don't get too annoyed by my over use of line breaks.

[fanofscifi]

Yeah I had a look at it on Amazon - the book itself probably wouldn't be something I'd ever read, but the rules are good to know and remember.

The line breaks don't bother me - I figured it was just your way of typing. Also it's no different than if the text was in a smaller window - like on a hand held screen. Others might be more fussy but I'm pretty flexible when it comes to reading text - as long as you're not changing the colors/using really tiny fonts it's all good.

[idiotgrrl]

Marvelous rules and much needed! I will copy them down in my quote book and who knows? IN 2009 I just might make a few incremental improvements. THANKS for posting them!

[999kcelfe]

I have the rules written on a little piece of
paper in my wallet, covered in packing tape
to prevent them from getting worn.

[redcalx]

Y'know I've not heard of that book but I think I arrived at a similar set of rules myself. I'm not sure how or why but occasionally I'll read or hear some pearl of wisdom that will stick with me - e.g I went to an evening class on Buddhism for a while a few years ago, and one of the talks was about how the striving and desire for things causes suffering. I don't recall what part of the Buddhist teaching this is part of but it's something my thoughts come back to often.

Also I'd say that rule number 3 is a cornerstone of science and essential for being a good scientist amonst other things. The financial mess the world is in was caused by many people making assumptions rather than making an assesment of the available facts.

[idiotgrrl]

"Check your assumptions.In fact, check them at the door." Lois McMaster Bujold.

[999kcelfe]

Long before I heard about "The Four Agreements",
I had my own philosophy on assuming things...

"If you assume the best, the worst might happen;
If you assume the worst, the best might happen."

[999kcelfe]

I basically means... always assume nothing,
because sometimes things don't work out.
I'd rather have things turn out BETTER
than I expected... than worse.

[lordalfredhenry]

I bumped into this book the other day in the spirituality section. I took a few moments to read it. I've made some rules of my own lately and have been totally getting into a lot of spiritual studies as of late.