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Hello asperger community.
I've been in and out of this group for a while now.
I'm back again.
Do I have AS? Maybe. Not sure. Whatever the case,
I was never diagnosed with it, probably because I grew
up and became a functioning adult before it became
well known. I am almost 29 now.
I decided to make a conscious effort to became a high
functioning adult, because I grew up in a disfunctional
family. I didn't want to be in that family, so as soon
as I could, I got my own life together, and have (for the
most part) been living on my own (or renting rooms or
with room-mates) since I was 21. The idea of being completely
independent is also very appealing to me. I am a lot less
depressed when I'm relying on myself, instead of relying
on others.
It's been hard. Growing up, I was definitely in my own
little world. Eventually though, I became aware of myself
and my surroundings, and was able to look back on my life,
and realize "hey!"...
One thing that has helped me out a lot, is that I read
a book called "The Four Agreements".
You don't need to read the book... you just have to
understand the four rules...
1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don't take anything personally.
3. Never make assumptions.
4. Always do your best.
Explanation of these rules...
1. If you say you're going to do something... do it.
Don't gossip. Don't say anything that you'll regret later.
If anything, it's best to keep your mouth shut.
2. What other people do USUALLY has nothing to do with you.
Most people are too wrapped up in their own reality... their own life.
It's best to ignore them, than let their problem become your
problem. (this doesn't mean that you can't try to help people)
3. If you assume the best, the best might not happen.
If you assume the worst... or NOTHING, then things might turn out better.
4. Sometimes you have good days, sometimes you have bad days. Sometimes you
have bad years. Do the best you can, and at least you know you've done at
least that. If it isn't good enough for other people... read rule 2.
At least you tried.
There's better explanations of these rules floating out there.
Whatever the case, it's given me piece of mind... I don't worry
about stupid things anymore. I don't worry about the past anymore.
The past is set in stone... there's nothing you can do about it.
Best to be concerned with now... and later.
So... why am I here? Because whatever the case might be... I am definitely
not NT. But is that a bad thing? I don't think so. Maybe life's a bit
more challenging, but I'd rather be myself, than be someone else.
Either way, I think I can relate to a lot of you... maybe even pass along
some advice, since I've been through a lot of the same challenges before,
and SURVIVED. :P
I've been in and out of this group for a while now.
I'm back again.
Do I have AS? Maybe. Not sure. Whatever the case,
I was never diagnosed with it, probably because I grew
up and became a functioning adult before it became
well known. I am almost 29 now.
I decided to make a conscious effort to became a high
functioning adult, because I grew up in a disfunctional
family. I didn't want to be in that family, so as soon
as I could, I got my own life together, and have (for the
most part) been living on my own (or renting rooms or
with room-mates) since I was 21. The idea of being completely
independent is also very appealing to me. I am a lot less
depressed when I'm relying on myself, instead of relying
on others.
It's been hard. Growing up, I was definitely in my own
little world. Eventually though, I became aware of myself
and my surroundings, and was able to look back on my life,
and realize "hey!"...
One thing that has helped me out a lot, is that I read
a book called "The Four Agreements".
You don't need to read the book... you just have to
understand the four rules...
1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don't take anything personally.
3. Never make assumptions.
4. Always do your best.
Explanation of these rules...
1. If you say you're going to do something... do it.
Don't gossip. Don't say anything that you'll regret later.
If anything, it's best to keep your mouth shut.
2. What other people do USUALLY has nothing to do with you.
Most people are too wrapped up in their own reality... their own life.
It's best to ignore them, than let their problem become your
problem. (this doesn't mean that you can't try to help people)
3. If you assume the best, the best might not happen.
If you assume the worst... or NOTHING, then things might turn out better.
4. Sometimes you have good days, sometimes you have bad days. Sometimes you
have bad years. Do the best you can, and at least you know you've done at
least that. If it isn't good enough for other people... read rule 2.
At least you tried.
There's better explanations of these rules floating out there.
Whatever the case, it's given me piece of mind... I don't worry
about stupid things anymore. I don't worry about the past anymore.
The past is set in stone... there's nothing you can do about it.
Best to be concerned with now... and later.
So... why am I here? Because whatever the case might be... I am definitely
not NT. But is that a bad thing? I don't think so. Maybe life's a bit
more challenging, but I'd rather be myself, than be someone else.
Either way, I think I can relate to a lot of you... maybe even pass along
some advice, since I've been through a lot of the same challenges before,
and SURVIVED. :P