Of friends and lovers

Feb 27, 2012 20:16

Where is for you the distinction between a lover and a friend? Where do you draw the line as to what belongs into a friendship and what belongs into a romantic relationship?

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nextdrinksonme February 27 2012, 21:04:21 UTC
Anything physical outside of hugging belongs in a romantic relationship.

Outside of that, all kinds of emotional junk. Lovers make me twitterpated. Friends just make me cheerful.

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cityofmist February 27 2012, 21:09:25 UTC
From dictionary.com:

lov·er   /ˈlʌvər/ Show Spelled[luhv-er] Show IPA
noun
1. a person who is in love with another.
2. a person who has a sexual or romantic relationship with another.
3. a person with whom one conducts an extramarital sexual affair.
4. a person who has a strong enjoyment or liking for something, as specified: a lover of music.
5. a person who loves, especially a person who has or shows a warm and general affectionate regard for others: a lover of mankind.

Thus, to qualify as a lover in the personal sense, not in the number four/five sense as someone who loves something, it has to either be someone who is in love with you or someone you're sleeping with.

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reliklaerek February 27 2012, 21:17:47 UTC
If there is anything beyond hugging, then they would have to be a "lover". But I don't think that should necessarily be the distinction for other people's relationships.

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adenar February 27 2012, 22:12:33 UTC
Added physicality (e.g).
Most importantly, displaying affection becomes too much of a mental strain because I feel it too strongly and worry all the time. Me being stressed out about it is a general sign that it's romantic.

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ilysespieces February 28 2012, 00:24:51 UTC
sex. and physical/emotional attraction
i love my friends but i don't want to sleep with them. and i don't really care what they look like or if we match on an emotional level as much as someone i'm in a romantic relationship with.
i love the boyfriend and want to spend all my available time with him and maybe some day move in with him and see where we go from that.

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