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[ashleyblack]

Life has been rather crazy it seems! This whole Japan thing has got me really f*cked up in the head. I'm leaning more towards getting married and going with him though. That's my gut feeling and I dont want to go against it. Also, I've done a ton of research about schooling over there and I could finish my core classes while I was in Japan. So I

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[ashleyblack]

Thanx Lizzie so much. My thoughts are all over the place and you helped organize them a little. I realized when I read your post that I havent talked about any of those things but I have thought them all out. If Kyle and i are married, the Navy pays for both of us to fly to Japan. Also, Kyle and I will live either on base in their housing units or Kyle is given a housing allowance for us to move off base. But I am allowed on base as long as we are married. Kyle also has his GI Bill which will pay for most of my schooling. Ha you were right about that job though I definitely dont speak Japanese. However, most spouses get jobs on base bc it's like a little town in itself with stores, theatres etc. Thank you so much Lizzie for caring enough to express your opinion. I promise I wont jump into anything

[jamylyons]

This whole thing blows my mind. Weren't we just in high school? I still feel like such a little kid- I can't imagine getting married. Ashley, I think you must be one of the bravest people I know. I'm kind of with Lizzie on this one. There's a LOT to consider here. Marriage is already going to be really tough- not just because y'all are young, either. Marriage is really tough for anybody. On top of that, you'd be in a country where you don't speak the language and you'd be millions of miles away from your family and all your closest friends. So if you and Kyle ever have a fight or something, you won't have anybody to go hang out with and eat tubs of ice cream with. I don't know if that's what married people do, but a girl can dream. I know 2 1/2 yrs. is a long time, but maybe this is supposed to be a test for y'all. Marriage is a lifelong committment. If you can be apart from each other for that long and still keep it together, then you'll know for sure that he's your soulmate. All I'm saying is, don't get too excited about the idea of

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[warhawkangel51]

You're sister's right. Do what YOU want. Are you gonna regret it? Probably not if your gut says that this is what you truly want. And you're researching it, which is REALLY good because it means that you are making a grown up desision about it. You're dad maybe "upset" or "frustrated" (terms used loosly) but he will eventually forgive you because he loves you, and that's going to be more important. You have to make a decision one way or another and neither is going to make EVERYONE HAPPY. But Ash, don't worry about everyone...ONLY WORRY ABOUT ASHLEY.

I love you!

[paiger114]

i hate the thought of you going to Japan more than anyhting!! I mean, I know I do not get to see you as much as I would like but, All the way over there!!! I guess we could all have a frienny trip if i got rich and hit the jackpot with some unrealistic job...perhaps i could pose for playboy..just kidding! i know your dad will be pissed, but i know how it feels to love someone and want to be with them. when the b word was away in ireland i missed him so much, but i knew i was going to see himn in two weeks, and we were in high school, and we were not engaged. i do not want you rushing into anything or giving up your yoiung adult freedom so soon. and i do not want yall to end up as a struggling family tryign to make ends meet because if you do get married you will not have andy and lisas to rely on financially. it will be hard economically, going thru school, and being half way around the world. but you will be with kyle and when you are in love with someone it feels like onyl you and them matter and the rest will work its way out. i