OK, guys... guys guys...

[asheraa]

I've had so many of you coming up to me with the "but I told her that we were just bonk buddies and she was fine with it and now she's in love with me and what am I doing wrong? and why does this keep happening?? and I'm sick of making the same mistakes..." etc etc etc.

I'm gonna spell it out for you all in short sentences in words of less than 2

Comments

[ex_ingenue]

Touché

[turbokitty2020]

as a rant..?
pretty fuckin' accurate. Damned (& been damned) myself a few times with this

[asheraa]

a rant at a few particular people, yes. I was triggered into feeling particularly unsubtle at 4:30am *blush*.

Hmmm, should have made it gender neutral, you're right. Its not just guys that do this *hug*.

[ex_bonvivan]

*nods* this scenario happened recently with some people very close to me

[gutter_monkey]

I only ever attempted a casual relationship once. It didn't end so well, for all the reasons you listed above.
But I've always seen sex as a part of intimacy, not the other way around. And I can do without sex but I'd go nuts without my hug buddies. :)

[asheraa]

Hugz=goood :-)

[dragoneletra]

wow
you are like, so wrong.
Here's me who can't even get laid, let alone get a girlfriend...how many years have I been single now ???? 4..or 5 ? I can't remember.,,..

Jc

[asheraa]

Hey, by all means if you want a girlfriend, go nuts, there are many girls out there who would find it refreshing to date a guy who actually means what he portrays. I was just pointing out to the people who have maoned at me lately about accidentally having people falling for them that if they don't wan't one, they should stop treating thier fuck buddies like girlfriends.

[dragoneletra]

I know what you were saying hon. My response was lighthearted.
I though, find that most of the women I have met in the last how long, have been, lets say, not as honest as they pretend to be, and perhaps a little misleading. If you just want a fuck, sure, say so. Though i'll probably knock you back, because i'm not that interested in just a fuck these days. More to life than that, so they say....i'm yet to find it though....

[asheraa]

yeah, I really should have made the post androgenous. There are plenty of guys out there that have been hurt the same way.

*hug* Hang in there, you'll find what you are looking for :-)