OK, guys... guys guys...
I've had so many of you coming up to me with the "but I told her that we were just bonk buddies and she was fine with it and now she's in love with me and what am I doing wrong? and why does this keep happening?? and I'm sick of making the same mistakes..." etc etc etc.
I'm gonna spell it out for you all in short sentences in words of less than 2 cylables so its very very clear for all of you...
If... you... treat... a... bonk... buddy... like... a cherised... girlfriend... then... she... will... believe... it... no... matter... how... meaningless... you... say... it... is.
YOU CANOT HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO.
Either have a fuck buddy who is an aquaintance and you treat like one of the guys outside the sack, or have a girlfriend, because I garentee you, the second you start calling her "sweety" "pookie bear" "hon" "darling" or any other sappy name, call her every day, sleep at each others place as opposed to fucking and going home without regularly reiterating the rules, telling her you love her like you mean it, and generally TREATING HER LIKE A GIRLFRIEND...
AAAAAHHHH!!
*intake of breath*
guys, if you treat her like you love her, we will think you love us. Period. It doesn't matter what you say, its what we will start to think, and no amount of wishing for a never ending endlessly understanding and ever forgiving pack of timtams will change that simple fact.
If you truly don't wanna hurt us, DON'T KEEP FUCKING US OVER!!. Stop killing us softly and we'll stop hating you for it.
EDIT: if you are one of my bonk buddies (past or present) adn you are offended due to thinking this relates to you, please ask me first. It is a rant. it is sound advice, but not aimed as a blanket tongue lashing.