Holier Than Thou

[arkiewriter]

Normally I like the pregnant LJ groups... there's too many "natural birth" divas on them and not enough moms who have had differing experiences.  The divas always gang up on moms mentioning "induction" or god forbid "c-section", so I always pop in with something along the lines of "they aren't the end of the world, be educated and know what you're

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[pandemicpsyche]

I had two natural homebirths after having a horrible hospital expereince in a supposedly "family centered" hospital where labor was encouraged in water, different positions were employed, ect

[pandemicpsyche]

I am opinionated when it comes to the subject of child rearing. I believe that breatfeeding shouldn't be a choice, and that people who think it's icky are just plain silly. We've been doing it for thousands of years of human history. Before it didn't used to be a choice. Now people choose to not give their child the best nutrition and healthy natural food that they can because of their vanity or because of convienience, and this makes no sense to me at all. Of course your body will change, you just had a kid! omg. And having a kid is not convenient. You don't take another's life into your hands on a whim, for goodness sake. And children are rarely ever "convienent" to have about. Parenting is a challenge and it's never easy or convienent

Gees!

[brightflashes]

I was just telling someone the other day that I've paid my dues to the pregnancy gods. At this point, I wouldn't care if it was a C-section or anything because this whole pregnancy has been so hard I'd take ANYTHING to make it easier. I've already had stomach surgery for my ectopic pregnancy (3 incisions) and for another health reason and know how my body reacts to it. I know that it would be hard at first, but I'd imagine a so-called "natural" birth would be, too.

So lets talk about the word natural because personally when I look down at my stomach and see movement I think UN natural. When I'm getting kicked in the ribs, I'm thinking UN natural. Crying at diaper commercials? I mean thats. not. normal. : P

I'd like to find this community that you're talking about, but then I'd probably continue a flame war and that wouldn't be very mature of me now would it?

Re: Gees!

[arkiewriter]

Thankfully the community as a whole doesn't tend to jump on my comments... just the original poster if they even semi-scent the idea of induction or scheduled c-sections that aren't pre-e related.

I will continue my mantra of it doesn't matter how baby arrives as long as both mom and baby end up healthy in the long run. I think moms who end up with mental trauma tend to be those too set on their "perfect birth" ideal (excluding those who really do have horrid medical staff or complications).

Re: Gees!

[arkiewriter]

PS. didn't want to start an argument in your journal, but the commenter who said your milk takes longer to come in for a c-section is confused.

Mine came in the next day with my first c-section (he was born at 41.5 weeks) and before I left the hospital with the second (he was born at 39 weeks) - we had a 5 day stay because of my spinal headache.

My younger sister's milk came in before she even went into labor.

[aikoheiwa]

Please please please send me to this group so I can give this woman what for!

[r_ch_l]

I don't have anything long and inspiring to say....

except 'Shoot them.' ;D

[captivatedheart]

I hated those pregnancy communities when I was pregnant. I can't stand the people who think their way is the only way and anything or anyone that goes against their nazi ways will be flamed.

I ended up removing the communities from my friends list..it's hard enough going through pregnancy/birth/baby issues and hormones without having complete strangers smack you down for having an opinion or heaven forbid not being crunchy enough.