A story

[annwfyn]

Once, a long time ago, I did a favour for a friend. He was interested in a girl who had recently ended a relationship with a good friend of his, and he was trying to work out how much trouble he would get in if he asked her out. How soon was too soon? Her ex was pretty gutted. How big a betrayal of friendship was it? And would people think he had

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[suave_steve]

One day I hope you can share the post but I can appreciate the potential minefields.

Oh and for the record I assume all LJ posts are never about me because believe me I don't have that drama in my life ;P

[annwfyn]

I almost certainly will. I periodically go through old journal entries on winterthing and make them all public as I realize how much of a storm in a teacup most of those entries are.

There are posts on there which I am sure were sideways references to some kind of emo-traum, but I now have no idea what. There are others where I clearly seemed to think I was picking a fight, but looking back at it, I was actually being quite reasonable. And there were other entries which I was sure were flame wars, but actually no one was being that bad at all. I think we all just cared too much in those days.

Which isn't to say I don't do that still. I just think it's easier to see with hindsight.

[suave_steve]

Yeah hindsight is a beautiful thing.

[pmp]

One thing people forget about cryptic posts is that just because you read it and think "oooh that sounds like it's about me" is that you know all the facts, others don't.

Anyhow, it's a well known fact that the universe revolves entirely around me and nobody else :P

[faerierhona]

The problem is, even if you try ad make it cryptic, it is still you writing posts about my life (well, if the post *is* about my life, obviously) and that makes me very cross if anyone does it. Even if it triggered a thought process for you, it still turns things that might be genuinely painful into a form of entertainment, and if I read it I might have friends effectively bitching about my actions without even knowing they are doing so

And so I think you are doing the right thing by not doing that, by waiting until it has passed and people can think it's about something else, because it can really really hurt when people do that, even unintentionally or when they actually didn't

[annwfyn]

As I have said, I am not posting this stuff up. I increasingly do that - I have a lot of private entries, or entries set to one or two people. And I write them because I like clarifying things in my head, whether it be the rights and wrongs of gossip, or my feelings about WW2 and why what happened to our grandparents still resonates or even just why certain things hit triggers for me.

And the longer I keep a journal the gladder I am that this stuff is recorded somewhere, as I have realized now how precious it is to have a good idea what the inside of my head looked like 5 years ago.

[faerierhona]

My comment may have come across funny, but I was applauding your decision not to post it, but just to write it privately/ leave it to later.

I do private posts sometimes, and have another place for such thoughts too. As you say, it gives us a look back on our thoughts at a time, and also is a useful way to explore our own thoughts, without hurting other people who may not be in any way involved

[suave_steve]

Yeah I find private posts useful for that, hell I end up writing one pretty much everyday.

[castorlion]

STOP WRITING ABOUT ME BITCH

[anonymous_james]

I want to +1 this comment.

[ginasketch]

lol

[annwfyn]

Man, do you have a sex tape on youtube as well?

[suave_steve]

Oh and on the final question - yes it is right if they have a sextape on youtube.

[twicedead]

They're in the public eye, therefore it is allowable to do ANYTHING to them.