For me - I unfortunately require a lot of attention (something I am working on and have improved on in recent years) and I am a huge flirt (something that I have gotten worse with recently). But it has everything to do with me and nothing to do with Dave, and I've never acted on any flirtations. In fact, they're more fun 'cause they're no-pressure.
Not that either of these reasons are appropriate, but here is two that I've observed:
1) Back Up Plan: you don't leave the person before shopping around in case shopping around doesn't work out--you can fall back on the original relationship.
2) You Want to Protect Them: this one is even more ridiculous but I've seen it. The partner cheats instead of leaving the original relationship so that they never have to 'hurt' them by leaving. This is obviously dumb as fuck, the cheating is far worse. What's really going on there is that they don't want to go through the pain and guilt of dumping their partner.
I think with a lot of men, they like the attention and get to puff themselves up a bit.
For me, as a woman, it had more to do with a back-up plan - I was curious if there were other possible relationships out there (if I was attractive anymore to anyone, etc.)
Flirting is just in some people's nature, and usually shouldn't be taken personally cause, as some said above, it's all about "give me attention".
As for actually sleeping with someone else or something like that, well some people just aren't made to be monogamous. Sex and Love are two completely different things to them and while it's great when the two come together they are not really linked.
I have all the respect in the world for a man or woman who's strong enough and confident enough to say "Yeah I let my partner sleep with whoever they want, because the only one they love it me." but it's gotta be an agreed upon thing. I know I could never do it.
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1) Back Up Plan: you don't leave the person before shopping around in case shopping around doesn't work out--you can fall back on the original relationship.
2) You Want to Protect Them: this one is even more ridiculous but I've seen it. The partner cheats instead of leaving the original relationship so that they never have to 'hurt' them by leaving. This is obviously dumb as fuck, the cheating is far worse. What's really going on there is that they don't want to go through the pain and guilt of dumping their partner.
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For me, as a woman, it had more to do with a back-up plan - I was curious if there were other possible relationships out there (if I was attractive anymore to anyone, etc.)
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It is their insecurity and needing to have their ego stroked.
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As for actually sleeping with someone else or something like that, well some people just aren't made to be monogamous. Sex and Love are two completely different things to them and while it's great when the two come together they are not really linked.
I have all the respect in the world for a man or woman who's strong enough and confident enough to say "Yeah I let my partner sleep with whoever they want, because the only one they love it me." but it's gotta be an agreed upon thing. I know I could never do it.
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