_Positive Discipline_ by Jane Nelson

[anemone]

The book is 30 years old, and you can tell. All the examples use surnames ("Mrs. Smith had the following problem with her son..." and not "Jane had the following problem with her son

Comments

[fanlain]

It's more concrete and less ranty than Kohn's. I found Kohn's book incredibly painful to read and not at all thought provoking. I agree that they have some similar views. I don't agree kids should HAVE to do something every day - as my current book ("The Secret Lives of Toddlers") points out, kids love role play and every now and then they might play the role of a baby. So I would think in that time it'd be ok if they didn't dress themselves for a day but make it clear that it will not be a habit

[urox]

"It mostly advocates teaching/discipline through play in a way the child can relate to rather than punishment."

This.

When my daughter does something like hits, I say things like, "Does Mummy hit you? Do you like it when other kids hit?" to which the answers are "no" and then the follow up statement of "Then you shouldn't hit. You don't like it. Mummy doesn't like it. Mummy doesn't do that."

[anemone]

I disagree about family meetings as a solution. Maybe for some kids, but I doubt that'd really work for many.

Why? I'm sure that it's not appropriate for kids your age, but I think a properly run meeting would probably be helpful for Helen.

I'm mostly not for the idea because it seems overly complex.

[jilflirt]

I agree with your assessment.