Comments | andandunewen: Not even an interview?

andandunewen

Not even an interview?

Apr 15, 2010 15:49

Believe me, I know I'm not the only person with job troubles as I know plenty of people who hate theirs, who've been laid off or had massive amounts of trouble finding a new one. But I got my hopes up, which I should never ever do. This part-time circulation assistant job was going to be my out from the job that I hate, and something closer to what ( Read more... )

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thebestwithinus April 16 2010, 17:19:29 UTC

I feel like whenever I start directing the word "should" at myself, it's really really hard for me to feel good.

I know you know that plenty of people hate their jobs. Hating your job doesn't mean you fail at life; it just means you're in the same boat as pretty much most Americans. That doesn't make it better, and it doesn't make it good for your mental health, but it also doesn't mean you need to beat yourself up.

It sucks and is totally baffling that you didn't get that interview. But give yourself some credit. You're in a place you love, with a person you love... many, many adults don't have that. You are not your job. 3 years at a job you hate is a lot, but you WILL get out at some point, and in the meantime you don't have to consider yourself a failure for not being out of it yet.

andandunewen April 16 2010, 17:24:52 UTC

Thank you. You're completely right, and the whole "I am not my job" thing is something I seriously need to remind myself of frequently, when I end up spending so much time every week at it. But yes. Everything else in life is going pretty well, so I don't need to beat myself up over this.

I am still baffled though. And miffed. And buying myself some gladiator sandals today to make myself feel better (I've been wanting them for like a year and a half now).

thebestwithinus April 16 2010, 17:39:00 UTC

I totally support your decision.

andandunewen April 16 2010, 17:42:54 UTC

Excellent. That makes me feel even better about doing it. :-)

emily204 April 16 2010, 19:00:32 UTC

I may have said some of this before, so if so, forgive me. But along the lines of what Mariah said, something I have really been working on lately is not trying to fight what I'm feeling. Like back in the day, I used to worry irrationally every time I couldn't get ahold of Jake that something bad had happened. And finally at one point my dad was like, "You know, you need to just recognize that you're going to worry until you hear from him." And after that, rather than trying to convince myself that I shouldn't be worrying, I would remind myself that this is just my natural reaction. Ideal, maybe not, but it really has helped me a lot with keeping things in perspective and not letting my emotions consume me ( ... )

babykamuix April 19 2010, 05:17:15 UTC

It is normal to dislike, nay, hate your job. Like you said, "I actually am very very lucky to have it," I say stick with that thought and remind yourself that it is only temporary.

You should not be so hard on yourself with this recent job application. You know what your capabilities are and how far you can go. Hang in there. :)