There is so little to report in my life now that i am back in the grind, with no stockpile of annual leave or even a business trip to break the tedium
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This post got me thinking about my own weight gain. I was always skinny, regardless of exercise habits, until my mid-thirties when I moved to Busan. Most of me still looks skinny, but my midsection has definitely acquired a podge. I tried on the trousers I wore to my wedding four and a half years ago and they just don't fit anymore! Perhaps its age. Perhaps it's living a more sedentary lifestyle. Perhaps its diet. I was strictly vegetarian before I moved here, but now I tend to eat what the rest of the family are eating.
Lifestyle wise my priorities are very family orientated (and sadly, as you well know, not fully realised). But I have moments when your lifestyle definitely appeals. Having no ties to people, property or more than a bag full of belongings and being able to flit around the world at will (subject to work and VISA restrictions of course). If you're enjoying (or at least not hating) doing nothing, then there's nothing wrong with it. Enjoy whatever you're doing, or not doing, this weekend.
I think my weight gain is similar to yours. I still look reasonably slim to other people, but i know i'm not because the pants don't lie. There is/was definitely an additional layer of flab around my middle.
The funny thing is i ate (and definitely drank) an awful lot more in my 20s and early 30s than i do now, so i suspect there is a change in how the body metabolizes stuff as it gets older. I think either you need to adjust your consumption down or your activity level up to maintain the same weight. I figured that skipping a meal was the easiest way since my other two meals are fairly nutritionally balanced and it seems to have worked out okay.
I loved Taipei. Maybe it was because I was with a family who was born there, but it was an amazing city.
I didn't know you did meth. How did you break free from that? I think it does steal your soul, so it's interesting to hear that sentiment.
I don't do breakfast. I fast about 16 hours a day on average. It seems to keep my weight more or less in check. Plus, fasted workouts are awesome. Your comments about biking are good because I plan on biking a lot in my new city soon. Biking opens your eyes to everything around you, and you notice more. You ARE a part of your environment when biking vs. a car. I love cars, always have, but biking is better in a million ways. Besides, burn fat, not millions year old compressed hydrocarbons.
I enjoy my alone time, but I am also fond of people and connections. Loneliness can kill. I see a lot of people in the hospital with no connections, and it's just sad. That being said, I've also seen A LOT of older folks with kids where the kids want nothing to do with them, so the concept of "who will take
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I credit my period of meth addiction with helping crystallize (no pun intended) what i wanted from my life, so i'm not really sold on the idea that it's wholly bad. I had a lot of fun, otherwise why bother in the first place? But from the addiction side i also saw talented and kind and beautiful people destroying their lives, and that broke the spell for me
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I think in some aspects having connections means you gain more. You lose the freedom to do fuck all, but in return you gain support and intimacy/connection. Do you risk losing it all again? Yes, but to me, life is about connections and experiences. There was that thing in "Into the Wild" where Christopher McCandles is credited with "Happiness is only real when shared."
I had positive experiences with psychedelics that I credit helped shape who I am today. I am not anti-drug, but meth/fentanyl addicts are crazy to deal with in the hospital. I see those two drugs as not really serving a purpose but to obliterate yourself. I think the meth composition has changed from what it used to be into something highly different and more personality changing.
I hear you so much on the idea of reducing the carbon footprint and equitable opportunities. If I were in your shoes, I would buy the lunch, at least sometimes (especially if no disposable dishware is involved). Sometimes, spreading your cash around to stimulate specific parts of the economy, like the nice lady serving $2 lunches for 40 years, is the right thing to do. And it is marginally social.
I can definitely relate to feeling somewhat thankful for tedium. I've been through some tumultuous times in my life and my regular cravings for novelty and excitement definitely led me to some not so great choices. I've become a lot more settled and I've ended up living a life a lot more ordinary, in some ways, than I had expected, but I definitely feel better for it and I don't miss the extremes of a few years ago. There is a lot to recommend moderation and these days I would rather have a steady (and hopefully long) life of living within healthy boundaries than be on a constant rollercoaster of highs, lows, mood swings and regrets.
(I don't relate to skipping lunch lol. I mean, I would if I could, because I'm constantly fighting my weight these days, but my blood sugar says no to going more than two or three hours without food.)
I was in a 21-year long relationship - most of it in London. When we parted (amicably) I came back to Brazil, to be with my family. I've been single now for four years; it's been a journey of learning to be single and, finally, appreciate it. I'm now very comfortable on my own, though still love the company of others.
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Lifestyle wise my priorities are very family orientated (and sadly, as you well know, not fully realised). But I have moments when your lifestyle definitely appeals. Having no ties to people, property or more than a bag full of belongings and being able to flit around the world at will (subject to work and VISA restrictions of course).
If you're enjoying (or at least not hating) doing nothing, then there's nothing wrong with it. Enjoy whatever you're doing, or not doing, this weekend.
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The funny thing is i ate (and definitely drank) an awful lot more in my 20s and early 30s than i do now, so i suspect there is a change in how the body metabolizes stuff as it gets older. I think either you need to adjust your consumption down or your activity level up to maintain the same weight. I figured that skipping a meal was the easiest way since my other two meals are fairly nutritionally balanced and it seems to have worked out okay.
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I loved Taipei. Maybe it was because I was with a family who was born there, but it was an amazing city.
I didn't know you did meth. How did you break free from that? I think it does steal your soul, so it's interesting to hear that sentiment.
I don't do breakfast. I fast about 16 hours a day on average. It seems to keep my weight more or less in check. Plus, fasted workouts are awesome. Your comments about biking are good because I plan on biking a lot in my new city soon. Biking opens your eyes to everything around you, and you notice more. You ARE a part of your environment when biking vs. a car. I love cars, always have, but biking is better in a million ways. Besides, burn fat, not millions year old compressed hydrocarbons.
I enjoy my alone time, but I am also fond of people and connections. Loneliness can kill. I see a lot of people in the hospital with no connections, and it's just sad. That being said, I've also seen A LOT of older folks with kids where the kids want nothing to do with them, so the concept of "who will take ( ... )
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I think in some aspects having connections means you gain more. You lose the freedom to do fuck all, but in return you gain support and intimacy/connection. Do you risk losing it all again? Yes, but to me, life is about connections and experiences. There was that thing in "Into the Wild" where Christopher McCandles is credited with "Happiness is only real when shared."
I had positive experiences with psychedelics that I credit helped shape who I am today. I am not anti-drug, but meth/fentanyl addicts are crazy to deal with in the hospital. I see those two drugs as not really serving a purpose but to obliterate yourself. I think the meth composition has changed from what it used to be into something highly different and more personality changing.
I'm glad you broke free of that!
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(I don't relate to skipping lunch lol. I mean, I would if I could, because I'm constantly fighting my weight these days, but my blood sugar says no to going more than two or three hours without food.)
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