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[amalthya]

There is nothing worse than seeing someone you love suffer. And, when it's self-inflicted suffering in the bad way, it feels even worse.  As hard as you may try to reassure them of their magnificence, when someone is just on tilt and self-deprecating and searching out validation for their own poor self image, it's nearly impossible to rationalize

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[elissaann]

They got close too fast, and he needed space before he suffocated. It would not matter how wonderful she is, because it's impossible to be comfortable in that situation. Or maybe that's my story.

[ultra_lilac]

It kind of seems like someone who's all 'yes please' one minute and all 'er...but no thanks' the next would be a poor match for someone with self-esteem issues.
But it seems like he was just being honest about his feelings, not implying that she's a horrible, bad-kissin' troll.

[amalthya]

I don't think that she really got the impression that he was such a fairweather fuck until the moment he pulled away and confessed the urge to run.

I'm just glad that she can see that her "rational" explanation of being too unattractive is clearly NOT the favorite.

[flatvurm]

I went for "outside comfort zone," but I have to say I want it to be the premature ejaculation. Don't know why, really. Except ejaculation is funny.

[congogirl]

That is why I voted for option #3!

[amalthya]

As did I. It is obviously the best, gooiest choice.

[xoder]

I've found sometimes, that no matter how attractive (all kinds of attractiveness) a person is to me, the kiss betrays some lack of chemistry.

[amalthya]

Don't tell her that; she is convinced that she did something wrong!

[xoder]

By "chemistry" I'm referring to the thousands of non-intentional things that make up a relationship between people.

That said, his wanting to "run away" speaks more about him than it does about her, or anything she did. She is absolutely not at fault here, and anyone would be hard-pressed to say otherwise (except for, of course, the all-powerful sense of self-doubt).

[failedoptimist]

I have more or less been the girl in your story, it sucks, oh, and I've more or less been the boy in your story, it sucks too... damn, well sympathy all around.

[amalthya]

Yea... overwhelmingly bad on either end.

What was your mindset when you were the boy? General discomfort with casual sex? (If you don't mind my asking)

[failedoptimist]

I never mind someone asking a question, well that isn't true, there are contexts where i might mind, but here I am happy to attempt to answer. First understand that I am a non-judgmental prude, i mean deep in my heart I would like to be comfortable enough to be a slut or kinky, but at a basic level I'm pretty puritanical about my own behavior, so i don't do casual sex