Re: because it's a slow day at workalumiereJanuary 9 2008, 19:43:58 UTC
thanks
as for asking out - i accept no surprisingly well, and as i said that has resulted in some excellent friendships anyway
i think i'm fairly realistic, about the open relationship thing - i understand that it's something a lot of people find hard to accept - eventually i suspect i'll be interested in and maybe find a primary, but i know myself and monogamy has never worked for me
Re: You can take the girl outta New York -alumiereJanuary 9 2008, 19:49:26 UTC
thanks
freedom rings - definitely not my style, but i'll see if i can't figure something out (hmmm... maybe a discreet pink triangle somewhere) - and girls are usually equally on my mind with boys, and i tend to look for both in the g/i scene - for some reason i'm more comfortable with the personalities - that said one of these days we are going to make it to a gay club again
huh - curious about who i've impressed enough to say that (blush)
I'd agree with the others to be upfront. Even if you're not ready for a relationship (and i can relate!), it's harmless to ask someone out on a date. It doesn't imply anything other than, "date."
I have a few friends who are poly. Honestly, there's some attraction in someone who can glean what they want from multiple sources. But speaking as a single largely-gay serial monogamist girl, I'd also offer that primacy is so, so sexy. You'd think that in California there'd be more men/women who are more open-minded than I, though?
I know my friend sarah is committed to having a boy and a girl. She's married. She's also stable, wonderful, and completely emotionally available. LOL, have you met her?
oh, good luck, Kim! I would just continue to ask people out or ask them over for parties/dinners. I've gotten to know women that way, & it's a harmless, less scary way of showing interest.
and as for open relationship that's different than poly - i had a primary in my last relationship, plus a regular gf and several repeat partners; not sure i'm ready for a primary again yet, but i suspect that in time i will be
don't know if i've met sarah or not, but if she's back east that's too far ;)
You are wonderful, nice, & wholly without sarcasm - it's rare to find that anywhere, that sense of sincerity, so for you it's just a matter of time. I feel you, though; I've not met many people who've "responded" to my requests for quality time... In the end, though, the people who don't have game are the ones who'll be honest enough for me.
life's too short for games! xoxo, much love! -jennifer
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as for asking out - i accept no surprisingly well, and as i said that has resulted in some excellent friendships anyway
i think i'm fairly realistic, about the open relationship thing - i understand that it's something a lot of people find hard to accept - eventually i suspect i'll be interested in and maybe find a primary, but i know myself and monogamy has never worked for me
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fortunately i don't have the second problem and hopefully you will solve that one sooon
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Like skunque says above - feel free to heed or ignore as you like. Much love ( ... )
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freedom rings - definitely not my style, but i'll see if i can't figure something out (hmmm... maybe a discreet pink triangle somewhere) - and girls are usually equally on my mind with boys, and i tend to look for both in the g/i scene - for some reason i'm more comfortable with the personalities - that said one of these days we are going to make it to a gay club again
huh - curious about who i've impressed enough to say that (blush)
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I have a few friends who are poly. Honestly, there's some attraction in someone who can glean what they want from multiple sources. But speaking as a single largely-gay serial monogamist girl, I'd also offer that primacy is so, so sexy. You'd think that in California there'd be more men/women who are more open-minded than I, though?
I know my friend sarah is committed to having a boy and a girl. She's married. She's also stable, wonderful, and completely emotionally available. LOL, have you met her?
oh, good luck, Kim! I would just continue to ask people out or ask them over for parties/dinners. I've gotten to know women that way, & it's a harmless, less scary way of showing interest.
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and as for open relationship that's different than poly - i had a primary in my last relationship, plus a regular gf and several repeat partners; not sure i'm ready for a primary again yet, but i suspect that in time i will be
don't know if i've met sarah or not, but if she's back east that's too far ;)
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You are wonderful, nice, & wholly without sarcasm - it's rare to find that anywhere, that sense of sincerity, so for you it's just a matter of time. I feel you, though; I've not met many people who've "responded" to my requests for quality time... In the end, though, the people who don't have game are the ones who'll be honest enough for me.
life's too short for games! xoxo, much love! -jennifer
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