That Social Thang...

[alf_b]

One of the joys of the internet is that you can discuss all sorts of things with different people that live in different places, earn interesting perspectives on all sorts of topics. The below conversations erupted during such a time with some WoW buddies. My thoughts on yaoiWhy is it that guys can fawn over their favourite celebrity women yet

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[ichiban_victory]

Honestly, I find myself better able to verbally communicate the more I do it. I'm shy by nature myself, but learning to speak up or be stepped all over has helped a great deal. Never say never, since humans by nature are all about adaptation. Challenge yourself to do better. If you bungled something, think out how you should have said it, since it'll make future situations much easier to deal with.

(I'd say drop-kick WoW too, but I'm biased since I stopped playing and regained a life - even though I do miss the online peoples sometimes.)

[alf_b]

Yeah, practice would probably help. My guildies played "let's analyze the alfbie" last night and speculated that my inability to verbally express myself stems from the lack of not doing it much while growing up. (I think, though, a lot of it is me being too afraid of pushing people away with my comments, opinions and attitude. I tend to do that anyway, lol, so I suppose I should get over that :P ) I've decided to make an effort to severly cut back on the emailing, limit myself to more direct forms of communication. Meh. It's gonna require A LOT of patience on my end. Lately I've been frustrated at absolutely everything; writing is my way of venting :P

WoW has become a glorified chat program for me. Most days I find myself standing around doing absolutely nothing in-game because I'm busy chatting it up. I've been ready to quit the game for some time now, but I'm not ready to also give up the peoples.

[mogchi]

You wont push ALL people away with your comments/opinions, it should bring people closer to you because they can see what's going on in your head. People should like you, for you. Opinions and attitude included.

[mogchi]

Agree, agree, agree! I too have difficulties talking with others, which is why I try not to debate. ESPECIALLY on the phone. At work I have to call patients to confirm appts, and I seriously have small anxiety attacks between each patient. NO JOKE! My heart beats all fast and I talk weird and my speech isn't correct...like I can't pronounce anything. The older I get the less social I become, and I too fear I will be that little old lady next door whom I have never seen and I have lived here 1 1/2yrs. I seriously have never seen her...it's creepy. She never has left the house.

[mogchi]

Haha, a few of my coworkers have gotten a little disgruntled at me over the phone before.

"Phone so-and-so and ask them what's going on with such-and-such."

*sends email*

Next time around: "OK, PHONE so-and-so and ask them what's going on with such-and-such."

Husband is the exception. I can eagerly phone him and talk to him for hours and hours and hours...

[cabochonwolf]

As you know, I too have the same issue with verbal communication, which is probably not good for a Naval officer. I try not to use email too much because using it excessively is frowned upon in the Navy, but some people do it anyway.

I'll never stop working on my social skills; I'll perservere through it all. However, I'm just not certain that I'll succeed in correcting my social discrepancies.

[cabochonwolf]

You will :) You've worked so hard to evolve to who you're becoming; I'm proud of you.

That said, CHRIS!!!!! Haven't heard from you in a while! How are things in Japan? Mom and Dad said you were getting an apartment there, and doing shopping for it...