Comments | akashathekitty: This here post be complaining...

akashathekitty

This here post be complaining...

May 01, 2012 03:27

...about my brother. Those who have been friends with me on LJ for a while have heard about him before. I don't know how to describe him except he makes me go HULK! SMASH! almost every time he contacts me.

TW on this post for verbal abuse.Naturally I try to keep contact at a minimum ( Read more... )

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tychesong May 1 2012, 01:54:04 UTC

You tell 'im! Way to get yourself out of his circle of direct influence. That can be hard enough when it's a long time friend or boyfriend/ex. I can't imagine how difficult it must be when it's blood. You have my stand and clap, and I hope your day gets better!!!

akashathekitty May 1 2012, 02:22:58 UTC

It's really difficult to get away from blood, ugh. And people never consider that a brother may be abusive like that but there you have it.

starkatz May 1 2012, 02:20:04 UTC

Little fucker. He belongs with my brother's psycho ex and they can live all manipulative in crazyland.

akashathekitty May 1 2012, 02:26:19 UTC

He sucks ass as does your brother's ex evidently, but let's not stigmatise mental illness more than we have to with our language. :/ I mean, yes, my brother is sick, but to be quite honest, I believe he's quite the rotten human being when all that is removed. I know plenty of people living with several MIs (and I struggle with at the very least a heavy clinical depression myself) that are lovely and don't make you want to HULK. SMASH.

I know that came off as preachy, but I really appreciate the support! ♥

starkatz May 1 2012, 02:34:18 UTC

oh it's not the mental illness that get's me so mad. It's the excuses and manipulation. I've been on antidepressants for a long time now, but I'm hardly the type to drive people to the breaking point. So no worries.

akashathekitty May 1 2012, 02:37:31 UTC

Thank you for understanding. ♥

And the excuses and manipulation and fucking direct verbal abuse is so incredibly awful that I can't even ugh.

inadaze22 May 1 2012, 02:27:10 UTC

Way to act like a 10 year old, AK's brother. This is probably the moment I would've been like "AND NO FUCKS WERE GIVEN"

But that would def cause problems.

AND STILL NO FUCKS WERE GIVEN

akashathekitty May 1 2012, 02:28:42 UTC

Hahaha, I ignored it. He'll probably whine to our mother. Whatever.

AND NO FUCKS WERE GIVEN!

inadaze22 May 1 2012, 02:30:22 UTC

"He'll probably whine to our mother" - seriously? If my sister whined about some bullshit like that, my mom would probably laugh in her face because NO FUCKS WOULD BE GIVEN.

akashathekitty May 1 2012, 02:35:06 UTC

My mother feels obligated to listen to him because he's sick. Seriously, he's a manipulative little piece of shit who's using everything he's got including some very real, very serious, illnesses to get what he wants. It's disgusting and I hate that I know him, much less am related to him, but there it is.

But whatever. Sometimes I pity our parents, but then I remember the seven BILLION instances of our childhoods that made him who he is today and can't help but be a bit YOU ASKED FOR IT! I WARNED YOU EVEN AS A KID BUT YOU DIDN'T LISTEN AND NOW YOU GET THIS FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE BECAUSE YOU NEVER TAUGHT HIM TO BE A DECENT HUMAN BEING MWAHAHAHAHA

Clearly I have very large issues with my family. All I can say is that they didn't teach me to be a decent human being either. ;P

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dormiensa May 1 2012, 02:37:02 UTC

*hugs* fairly new to the drama, but that sucks. don't let them guilt you. just don't. if they can't understand, too bad. if they get angry, too bad. do not get back into that abusive cycle! (i know, easier said than done. i'm just hoping that seeing it in black and white can help. *hugs*)

akashathekitty May 1 2012, 02:40:17 UTC

Yeah, I'm not, thank you. ♥ Fortunately, they've given up on making me be ~nice~ a long time ago. I actually have a kind of bad rep in our family, as far as I understand, even though most of the people that I actually give a fuck about seem to talk to me just fine. I don't fucking want to be nice if it comes at that high a cost anyway, so anyone wanting me to can just piss off.

And my resolve just hardened x1000 when Kupo (and Snuffles!) was born, because I'm not letting him be vulnerable to that kind of shit, you know?

dormiensa May 1 2012, 02:43:23 UTC

just don't forget your priorities! :) yes, yes, have to protect kupo and snuffles. seriously, if it wasn't for my grandparents, i'd've dissociated with my dad's sibs loooong time ago. mom and sis try to guilt me, but i told them point-blank that if they condone that behaviour, then they condone me acting like those arses toward them. blood sucks sometimes.

go hug your boys! :)

akashathekitty May 1 2012, 02:51:56 UTC

I would except it's almost five in the morning and they're kinda asleep. XD

Good for you about your dad's family! I haven't really seen my dad's family in many, many years either because they suck ass. The last time I saw them I was subjected to having to listen them discuss my weight in the most humiliating way (because all a girl is is how she looks, amirite?), and I ended up fleeing the party (a celebration for a girl, my step-cousin, whose dad, my dad's step-brother, spent all party talking poorly about her mother for leaving him...) early. That was 10 years or longer ago. I had gone in a last ditch attempt at ~being a family~ and I was simply so crushed from the experience that I never acknowledged another invitation.

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royalty25 May 1 2012, 03:29:32 UTC

Good for you for standing your ground. I hate it when people make excuses for others. I know plenty of people with MIs (myself included) that do not go around treating people like shit and abusing them as a way to improve their own self-esteem. I think that your family needs to cut the shit and stop giving him no many excuses to use when he slams people into the ground with his hurtful words. My family tried pulling that on me with my father, but their words were more along the lines of "that's how he is and you need to accept it." There is no damn reason why anyone should accept abusive behavior no matter what to reason and the next time someone asks you about it in your family you tell them just that.

*cuddles you*

akashathekitty May 1 2012, 03:43:19 UTC

Yeah, that's the thing. Everyone fucking enables him all the fucking time. I get that he does need special consideration in some ways. Like, he can't work. He lives in a protected apartment because he can't be trusted to cook and clean and take his medicine on his own. You can't simply ask him to go to the store and expect it to not be a big anxiety-inducing deal to him. Certain things are hard for him to grasp and sometimes he goes into a kind of mental tailspin and there's little you can do except give him pills that usually tend to completely incapacitate him unless you want to watch him crash and burn. His life? Fucking hard and depressing.

That doesn't mean he gets a free pass at being an asshole, though. The whole ~that's how it is~ argument you've heard for your father? REALLY IS COMPLETELY BULLSHIT. People can change. They just don't unless motivated, and they usually don't get motivated until people give them crap about it. Well, I'm the only one who gives him crap, and at some of his more lucid moments he's told me that it ( ... )