I used to be like that, very. Maybe even worse, I was a complete doormat. The friendliest and most naive of all friends. Always there for everyone, going out of my way to make everyone happy. It's not a way to live. I come first now. I didn't get lonely at all, I just kept the best friends. All the bad apples, the backstabbers, the opportunists, have vanished. Only the good people stayed. Sure they're only a handful, but I really don't need more.
o no sod the selfish peps hehe, your fab as you are :D besides whos going to be there for me when i have no idea about photography what nots :P i think im going to get myself a camera and cant decide between a nikon d3000 or if i can still get a nikon d60 hehe x
I think that is the problem with a hell of a lot of people. Looking out for themselves. Getting all that they can out of others. I've put people in front of my own needs a lot, and succumbed to what my friends want instead of what I really want. In the end you feel terribly unhappy and kind of used.
TBH the only nugget of advice I can give is to start saying no sometimes. I'm not saying you probably don't, 'cause I don't know and don't want to presume. But I know from experience that the moment you start saying no and don't make yourself so easily available/willing to help/do a job that the 'friend' should've done themselves in the first place..you quickly realise who your real friends are and who really is worth your time and effort
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I experience this on a level too. I feel that I give alot because I care, but sometimes the lack of reciprocation is devestating. It's like, "Oh! This girl is a performer, she models, and she's pretty. I want to be her friend for these reasons alone." Really, I hardly connect to anyone, but have many acquaintences. I'm an odd one though.
With people like that I always prefer them to be upfront about it, then I can treat them the same way. There are some people that can't help but be so obvious about it, but others put a front on about wanting to be my friend.
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It's not a way to live. I come first now. I didn't get lonely at all, I just kept the best friends. All the bad apples, the backstabbers, the opportunists, have vanished. Only the good people stayed. Sure they're only a handful, but I really don't need more.
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i think im going to get myself a camera and cant decide between a nikon d3000 or if i can still get a nikon d60 hehe
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haha I'm a Canon kind of person so I have no idea about Nikons. I want a new camera so much, I may borrow my father's one in the meantime though.
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TBH the only nugget of advice I can give is to start saying no sometimes. I'm not saying you probably don't, 'cause I don't know and don't want to presume. But I know from experience that the moment you start saying no and don't make yourself so easily available/willing to help/do a job that the 'friend' should've done themselves in the first place..you quickly realise who your real friends are and who really is worth your time and effort ( ... )
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It's like, "Oh! This girl is a performer, she models, and she's pretty. I want to be her friend for these reasons alone." Really, I hardly connect to anyone, but have many acquaintences.
I'm an odd one though.
That picture is amazing. =D
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