Dear World,
Believe it or not, it is totally okay to prefer one or the other. This does not make someone a bad parent, this does not mean they will be disappointed with their child, this does not mean they will treat it any differently, and it does not mean they have their priorities off-track and need a lecture.
No, really!
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Maybe it's hormones. Or maybe people are douches. Either way, it got a bit ranty. )
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I don't think that made either of us bad people. It definitely hasn't made David a bad dad that he didn't get his little boy - he adores her.
And it doesn't make you a bad person at all. It makes you human and honest that you have a preference. I'm rooting for an XY for you :-)
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I'll admit, because I *am* wanting one way or another, I almost wanted to get an ultrasound. But I do like the tradition of finding out at birth. And, secretly, I think I may be able to talk Josh into just one more try, if it comes to it. ;)
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Her mom and I were *both* feeling "girl!" as was another of the ladies attending the birth, and none of us were the least bit disappointed when she had a beautiful, healthy, screaming baby boy. :) Your kid is going to be loved and accepted regardless of the sex. I think Nature wired (most of) us that way.
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If I knew I'd have a boy, I'd try again in a minute. But not being able to pick the sex of said un-fertilized egg... I'm not willing to risk the terrible pregnancy that would ensue without that guarantee though. That might make me a horrible person, but so what. :D
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No, it doesn't make you a horrible person at all! Everyone's hopes and wants are perfectly valid. It's also one of the great joys of living in the days of birth control! (Assuming you get one that works, har har. This is the only baby we've actually planned. ><)
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"Well, we're both still young. We can have plenty more kids. We're just going to leave this one out on a rock if it's not a boy. You know, like our ancestors did in Greece. See? It's traditional!"
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I know, for me (I don't have kids yet, and can't wait.) I want my first to be a girl. I always wanted a little girl, and want my eldest to be one. Does that mean I'd love a boy any less? Absolutely not. But my hope is for a girl, and I'll be totally honest about that.
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