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aethyrflux

ranting and raving

Apr 10, 2003 20:04

i have this tendency to seek long-term relationships with people... i want to establish a sense of community, so that i can feel like my time and efforts will be reciprocated at some point. but i seem to have continually fallen into relationships with people who are apparently only willing to scam on me in the short term... lie to me, use me until ( Read more... )

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greendreams April 11 2003, 06:54:08 UTC

I have had the trouble of not recognizing the people who are truly valuable and good in my life by focusing on the people who seem the most "bright and shiny" to me. It wasn't until after college and I had moved away that I really came to realize who really cared about me.

I'm glad you're not going to give up hope! ;)

I've already gone down that road-- I don't trust people nearly as easily as I used to-- now I'm trying to get some of that back and it's chalenging.

follow the bouncing ball... aethyrflux April 12 2003, 05:11:24 UTC

my friend jessaries and i came up with a new mantra this morning:
when it stops being fun, it's time to RUN!

Forgive and forget harliquinmayhem April 11 2003, 08:14:46 UTC

You aren't exactly the victim here...I think you're just impatient with people. Me, for example...sometimes I just don't want to talk. You've known me long enough that I thought that you could've realized by now that I don't always want to talk BUT I'll get back to you every time, in my own time. I think that you recently blew things way out of proportion. When I had a headache yesterday and you couldn't stop saying the same thing over and over again "I don't understand you not wanting to talk, I never don't want to talk, I can always talk"...good for you. Shanta, hon, not everyone is like you...I think you've noticed that already. And give me some credit for standing with you as long as I did, none of that "scam you in the short term" business. I spent more time building a relationship with you than I have ever with anyone else. I don't think that you take me, my life experiences with trashy relationships, and my crumbled attitude and general disappointment with human interaction into consideration because you're just thinking about ( ... )

Re: Forgive and forget aethyrflux April 12 2003, 06:25:31 UTC

well, i'm glad that we seem to agree on at least a few things, here ( ... )

Let the Goat come to you animatedhuman April 11 2003, 08:40:02 UTC

Coming from a relationship perspective I would say this to you. Make it a spell. Forget the banishing. Take a piece of paper and write down a story of the relationship you want to have. be very descriptive for the Gods replicate exactly what you ask for. Put it in a special container, make sure that your container will actually contain it. Go t the river and throw it off the bridge in to water. It must be carried away by the water. Then, forget about it. Go back to yourself and your own manifestation of destiny and prepare yourself for the coming. If you are not ready and available for the coming it will pass you by. Stop looking for it! Divine relationships are not manipulated they are manifested through the hands of the Divine. Open your heart and keep it that way for only through an open heart will you be able to see clearly when the coming comes.

Re: Let the Goat come to you aethyrflux April 12 2003, 06:55:35 UTC

Thank you for sharing this beautiful ritual with me! I really do agree with your sentiments. in fact, i have been blessed with wondrous divine favor in my relationships recently, which i have alluded to in a previous post. at the same time, i have been afflicted with echoes of bad karma from past relationships, which i am doing my best to process and lay to rest. so, i feel that a combination of tactics (summoning creative manifestations and banishing destructive influences) has been useful in accepting my dharma. i mean this in the sense that i have played a part in the chain of cause and effect -- and it is my responsibility to be accountable for my behavior, so that my heart will continue to be open in accepting divine inspiration. all the same, you're right ultimately: i should bitch less, and praise more!