Heartsick

[aearwen2]

I'm gonna do something I very, very rarely do: I'm gonna talk about events going on in my online life. Today's topic: losing friendships

Comments

[ruger2]

Boy, do I hear you on that one! I had a similar experience last weekend, when someone I had asked if I might friend, changed their mind. The reason they changed their mind was because of an opinion I expressed in an online survey that dissented with the view they held. The person's feeling was that they didn't think they could -- I'm stuck for a word here -- have "conversations"? with someone whose views diverged from their own. I felt broadsided, much like you must have, except that I was castigated for stating an opinon in a public forum

[jkahane]

Personally, someone who did that to me, Mar, would be someone that I might not have been friends with to begin with, even in virtual reality.

We are who we are, and we should never apologize for that. The fact that you were judged based on the actions/words of another says more about the person who judged you than anything else.

Good that you have the music to fall back on at the moment. Take that and run with it.

{{{{{hugs}}}}

[lissas_elves]

Aearwen, I'm incredibly sorry to hear about this. For people to judge you by what others may or may not have done is just completely unfair

[rhapsody11]

*hug* I am so sorry that this happened to you, I have observed it from afar and it just sounds so unfair that you are treated like this. I hope you soon can close this chapter.

[peredhellover]

Aearwen, as someone who was witness to much of what occurred, I second everything that Lissa said. You managed to keep a level head and state your opinions in a calm and rational manner, at the same time that you stood up for your friend and did what you believed was right, even at an obvious personal cost. I respect that very much, and, of course, still count you as a friend.

As for me, I’m not sure what I actually did. But, for what it’s worth, like you, I’m still bothered by it all. I hope you found some happiness in your choir and piano practices.

peredhil lover