Comments | advice: He said "My phone is always on" after breaking up with me. What does this mean?

_alyssaox16 in advice

He said "My phone is always on" after breaking up with me. What does this mean?

Aug 09, 2012 00:12

From the moment I met my boyfriend at the beginning of the summer he knew that I would be moving in September. Initially I told him I did not want a relationship and then we ended up getting very serious and both of us got swept up in this highly emotional summer romance. As August approached, and the majority of my weekends were booked up.. we ( Read more... )

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looloosmells August 9 2012, 04:27:13 UTC

sounds like he really cares for you, but that he is also a little "off".

_alyssaox16 August 9 2012, 04:31:28 UTC

What do you mean by off?

looloosmells August 9 2012, 04:32:38 UTC

umm..like maybe he's lying a little and doesn't know what he wants.

_alyssaox16 August 9 2012, 04:54:22 UTC

I agree. Thanks for your opinion! xo

bender_927 August 9 2012, 14:35:03 UTC

Let's say he is miserable doing the cleanse but is looking for someone else to be with in the meantime, then what?
Or he finds someone else he's interested in and starts seeing her, then what?

Ultimately, I think you're paying too much attention to what your ex is doing and why he's doing it and how he's doing it. Obsessive attitudes like that towards an ex (or just about anyone, for that matter) don't go well. I would suggest focusing on yourself. Accept that the relationship has ended and move forward.

_alyssaox16 August 9 2012, 16:09:33 UTC

I agree. If it's meant to be it will be! Thanks for your input :)

divalicious August 9 2012, 20:46:40 UTC

It sounds like he's taking steps to move forward with his life, but that he wants things to remain amicable with you. I know it can send mixed signals for him to contact you, etc., but it's hard to just STOP caring about someone in an instant. (And it's a good sign that he didn't, you know?) You're moving into a new phase too, with a new job and all... these are good things to focus on. Wish him well on his journey, losing weight is a laudable thing. And him telling you he doesn't want anyone around for that, is prolly to cushion the breakup and make it sound a bit more reasonable like "Yeah it's probably a good idea we're not together anyways, cuz ____." Best to let him move on.
Congrats on your new job and best of luck!

damion_c August 10 2012, 00:11:00 UTC

This is very confusing to me.

You decided first that you should talk about breaking up, then after an enjoyable evening he ended up breaking up with you. Then you (both) had sex.

Then he woke up with you walked you to your car, asked for a hug and told you he phone is always on. He told you about going on a diet to "lose the tire" and that he would be miserable doing it.

He called left a random story and was evasive when you called back, commented about your new job

This could be one of two things the way I see it.

First. Like looloosmells stated, it sounds like he cares for you but something is "off" His personality seems to bounce back and forth a lot. If he wanted to break up with you he wouldn't have had sex, wouldn't have told you his phone is always on and wouldn't have told you about his diet (because it's no longer your business). If he didn't want to break up with you he would have kept trying to stay in contact with you, messaging you or commenting on facebook, leaving voicemails etc ( ... )