New Phrase

[abexy]

Lately I've been thinking about this newly developed limerence-based concept. I think I need more opinions on it, especially from the gays, since it's about them. I call it Homolimerent Reflection, which is the state of becoming like the same-sex limerent object. I am under the impression, though it can be changed, that it would only occur in

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[katiekins]

I think that people who identify as straight experience this too in the form of "boycrushes" or "girlcrushes." Witness me and my bellydance crushes or Britney Spears crush, or Ryan and his GIANTICUS BOYCRUSH ON SUPERMAN. (I'm not sure that either of us is ohsostraight, but those were the first examples I thought of.) Like, you can totally want someone of the same sex but pass it off as admiration because you're "straight." Hmm. Is there bilimerent reflection?

[abexy]

I don't think there can be bilimerence, because limerence is directed at one person, so there'd only be hetero and homo limerence. It's like there's no such things as a bisexual relationship (between two people), there are just bisexuals.

Yeah, I suppose my whole homolimerent reflection theory brings up that distinction between limerence and just thinking someone is totally awesome. I guess it's not really that unique or specific.

hehe, Superman.

[zephyrcrow]

No bi-limerence, eh? What if you were attracted to a person who identifies as gender-fluid, transvestite, or who is a hermaphrodite?

For me, as a bisexual, I find that the important thing is to snag someone who has the qualities I generally find attractive about each gender. My relationship looks straight and vanilla, because technically he's male and I'm female, but... it still makes me giggle when people are like "LOL STR8 PPL".

Anyway, here's an example of two people mimicking each other at the same time.
Genesis relocated to New York City with his second wife, Lady Jaye, nee Jacqueline Breyer, and began an ongoing experiment in body modification aimed at creating one "Pandrogenous" being named "Genesis Breyer P-Orridge".

LOL STR8 PPL

[abexy]

as I said that, I thought about the gender-free/ambiguous population. I don't know if that qualifies as bi, since the concept of bisexuality implies two, and the free and ambiguous people don't fit into those two.

I could either make it more complexe or simpler. Lets says there's omnisexuals who just like what they like, or lets say: people are attracted to what they're attracted to, to qualify it by sex and gender it unnecessary, even if some people are bound by this, and I will stop using the world homolimerence because it creates unnecessary division.

Thats me changing my mind after remembering what I know.

[fey_callista]

I also have fallen victim to the " if i cant have you, ill be like you", or rather, i realised stuff about them that I had never accepted in my life before. In response to your justifications: 1) seems to have problems because people who are obsessed with themselves rarely try to look outside of themselves in the first point. I have several people I can name who are so wholly ingrossed with themselves that they believe that they are completely capable, along with everyone else on the planet, to living their lives alone with no romantic interest. While this is a very nice way to live for them, I do not believe this is the path for all. Heck, some of us just really like being in a relationship (even though they are painful and never end well

[my_kateling]

I know what you're talking about, agree with both reasons, and assert in my militantly bisexual way that it happens to straight people, too.

Exhibit A: Girl likes movies and certain types of music more because of Boy.
Exhibit B: Boy stops playing sports and starts play violin for Girl.

The list goes on and on. Watch Grease if you don't believe me.

[abexy]

Yes, but I would say someone who identifies as the same gender can take it some steps further. Let me qualify that: usually. An example: Boy A has limerence for Boy B and begins dressing like Boy B.

Actually, I guess clothing and appearance are my only examples. They are what I had in mind when I started this.

New Term: Limerent Reflection

But I think there's a difference between Maybe if I like this you'll like me which is a desire-driven thing, and what I was thinking which falls more along the lines of maybe if I'm like this, I won't need you/I'll have what I want in you. Even though that contradicts what I said earlier, it's closer to the new meaning.