Yes, more about Mom

[aadroma]

So about four months ago -- when Mom died -- we were trying to contact everyone we could, who knew Mom, who would want to know what happened. One who we couldn't reach was my cousin Dawn. I'm not sure what's been going on in Dawn's life, but she'd always been between jobs, moving -- her life was pretty unstable. I had regained contact with her

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[greatbearmd]

Don't beat up on yourself because of this, Roger. There was no way you could have "softened" the news or made it any more palatable, the end result would have been the same. You tried your best to make contact, and you finally did. Best that you get it out and get it done quick. Of course it will reopen any emotional wounds you still have, but that's being empathic and human. You did not deliver the news in some clinical fashion.

You tend to open your heart to people, and this is aq very good thing. It's not without a bit of risk, as you haqve undoubtedly noticed.

*hugs*

[maxauburn]

I'm sorry that the conversation with Dawn brought up sadness, but that is a normal thing.

I know it hurts.

I had to call George's family and tell them that
he'd died.

Several of his friends called over the next few days; I told them all, too.

It hurt.

You will hurt, too, and the first year is the worst. The first birthday without her, the first holiday, etc.

It gets better, though you will always wish she were still here. It hurts, I know.

This is part of our existance.

Life goes on. It always does.

And we go on, as we remember to keep putting one foot out in front of the other.

That's how you do it.

*ULTRA-HUGS*

[muckefuck]

More than a year after one of our coworkers died, we still get calls asking for him. So far--to the best of my knowledge--it's only been companies calling, not people who actually knew him. So I've gotten to the point where I'm pretty blunt breaking the news. Which means sooner or later I'll get someone who actually knew him and end up feeling like a right dickhead.