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Update About Temp and Other Stuff

Nov 16, 2007 10:15

Well, this morning I received the gift that he's been making for me all this time. It's a necklace with different beads. But they're all purple. And it's really pretty. Not that I wear a lot of purple so I wouldn't wear it often, but I think I'm gonna keep it. I just won't feel the need to change my attitude toward him. He's still just a temp at my ( Read more... )

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ninjafeline November 16 2007, 21:25:56 UTC

It sounds really positive with your girlfriend. Dependant partners can be really difficult to handle. I can get into a dependant state myself, and it's hard for both people. I think you sound like you're managing really well with talking it out and setting boundaries, etc. Your art is a big part of how your mind and body deals with stuff, so you do need freeflow... It's ok to make pieces for other people, but depending on how you approach them and how far you trace them from what comes normally and naturally to you, the harder it is to do them and like them. I know that feeling. It's quite common in the way that people say art and commerce fight against each other. Everyone has to find their compromise ( ... )

wildwordwomyn November 16 2007, 21:39:02 UTC

Thanks for understanding about my writing. Now that I have a lover I realize my muse can rear her head at inopportune moments. Neither one of us is used to sharing ourselves, I don't think. It's still an adjustment:)

I'm looking at the guy giving me the necklace as harmless. Maybe he's just really crafty? Doesn't matter if no one sees his stuff (artistic stuff I mean) or if everyone sees it. He still do it. So if he wants share, whatever. I think the fact that I don't fear him or anything helps me say, "Hey, thanks," and go on about my day. Okay, so being dissociative makes it easier too. I can ignore him and be fine, you know? And he seems okay with that, which is the best part of all.

ninjafeline November 16 2007, 21:54:45 UTC

yeah, disociation can come in handy for sure. Prioritising, for example. There are more important things for you to worry about. If he's harmless, go with that gut feeling. I would react abnormally because that's how I'm structured with my OCD and my personal psyche, so I just mentioned that. I think you're doing really great :)

Difficult muses... yep, been there :) tricksy little things they are...

x

wildwordwomyn November 16 2007, 22:31:53 UTC

Exactly!

Thanks again for the support:)

*safe hugs*