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kanimaki in _post_secret_

Silent Treatment

Feb 02, 2009 22:10

Have you had the silent treatment with someone or a few people at once?
Who started it?
What was the longest period of time you went without speaking with each other?
If it was a relative or close friend (housemates, classmates, workmates), how did you cope with it, especially being in close vicinity
Describe any experiences with silent treatments ( Read more... )

friendships, she said/he said, relationships, family, say what?, arguments, beliefs, misunderstandings

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anonymous February 2 2009, 17:36:00 UTC

I was too shy to ask a boy if he liked me, so I asked her to. I saw them talking, but then she wouldn't tell me what he would say. I couldn't believe it. Why would she withhold information like that? On a whim I told her, I won't talk to you until you tell me. That sucked, because we were best friends. It was hard to pretend things were ok to my parents, who knew that every weekend I begged to let her spend the night. Then suddenly, a few weeks later, we happened to be sitting next to each other in church and she abruptly whispered in my ear, "He said he doesn't know." I stared at her in shock, then asked her why she did that. She said she had wanted to see if a boy would come between us. How idiotic, I thought. I knew she had gotten the idea from some girlie books we had been reading. It wasn't the boy who had gotten between us, it was her intentionally testing me, withholding information and using it against me to gain power. We're still friends, but I was a bit jaded after that.

anonymous February 7 2009, 22:19:37 UTC

This sounds like a 13 year old wrote this.

How is having a best friend ignoring you gaining power? Has it ever occured to you that he asked her not to tell you?

anonymous February 2 2009, 18:12:39 UTC

My Housemate, who, at 21 you'd think would be considerably more mature than she is, does this to me alot. She is at the moment in fact, for over a week. I have done nothing wrong, and she knows I haven't. I hate it, because she purposely makes it very difficult for me to be in the house.

I have anxiety issues as it is so this makes it worse. No-one else my age is this immature, if my friends and I fall out, *if* we do, we talk about it.

anonymous February 2 2009, 21:30:21 UTC

No, that's stupid and ineffective. The best way to make sure everyone is happy and getting what they want and need is to communicate. Sorry, I'm poly and the thought of EVER doing that would ruin relationships and friendships left and right, and is generally acknowledged as what NOT to do. What is the aversion to TALKING that people have? I really don't get it.

anonymous February 2 2009, 23:47:14 UTC

When he announced on a public site that he had a girlfriend (that wasn't me, even though we'd been seeing eachother for months) I stopped talking to him. It's been just over a month. Part of me wanted to know why, but the better part of me knows it's not even worth discussing.

anonymous February 3 2009, 01:20:49 UTC

After we broke up--I didn't talk to him for a week. I thought it'd help me cope. It didn't. Things are better now, but it was hard back then.